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I mean isn't it obvious? She learned from her presumably older brother that getting married gets you to a better place, so you need to really ask yourself how much of all the boxes shes ticking off now is just a means to an end and how much of it is going to stay. If you want to get married, go see a lawyer and protect yourself.

On December 20 2016 16:37 Fayth wrote: Show nested quote + On December 20 2016 16:07 Floofy wrote:   On December 20 2016 16:01 Loco wrote:   On December 20 2016 11:32 Spitfiree wrote:   On December 20 2016 06:52 PuertoRican wrote: lmao... Obviously DON'T marry her... TBH, I was expecting her to be better looking than this. To be clear, I don't think she's ugly, but considering you're even thinking of marrying her... I expected something a little better. Anyway, DON'T marry her... Could not reply better than this Also wp spets for saving the blogpost What the fuck. PuertoRican is an asshole. Who the fuck cares about his expectations? And since when is looks the center of the focus when you're considering marrying someone? It's the least important factor. Anyway, I agree it's a terrible idea to marry her. There's uncertainty in every single one of your posts Floofy. You don't trust her - you say she could be lying about this and that. Marriage is the last thing an uncertain person should be getting involved in. You'd be making a decision based on fear. Of course i'm uncertain. I've known her IRL for 3 weeks, and she's "too good to be true". Maybe i'm generalizing, but usually women on the internet are on the internet for a reason. There's always something wrong with them. Either fat, or ugly, or bad sex, or shit personality, or wants to wait 3 month before sex, etc. dude, everybody is on the internet nowadays

I don't know why but this post made me laugh hysterically after reading it

results?

Marry her.

On December 23 2016 09:09 dnagardi wrote: results?

She's gonna try to get work permit from her job.

Otherwise i guess ill'listen to absolutly everyone and not marry her =(

You should not make long term plans for life together while you are still in the crushy I just wanna fuck allll the time phase. That phase rarely lasts more than 3-6 months (and isn't sex pretty much always amazing while you are in this phase?). Looks also just.. they make you fall for someone (and having a hot gf can make you not fall for someone else), but they're far, far from the most important of a long term relationship.

Now, if not for the whole, you gotta support her for 3 years, I'd actually be okay with marriage; if you enter it lightly you can also leave it lightly. I have no qualms about what's essentially pro forma marriage. But committing for 3 years over someone you've known for a couple of months is more likely than not a bad idea. And you absolutely must completely trust the person; which means you need to have experienced some type of strife. Seeming like the most charming, nice person when you are in love is EASY. But a large majority of a marriage is spent without being crazy in love.

I have a really good friend who went like, age 22 until 30 without having a girlfriend and virtually without getting laid. Then he met a girl from Mauritius, they started dating. He was over the fucking top happy, constantly blissful because he was just so crazy in love, they had lots of sex and he thought it was the best thing ever, she lived with him for like 4 months, and that mightve just been the best 4 months of his life. Then she had to go back to Mauritius for some family issues, was supposed to come back after a month or two. A month passes, my friend is becoming increasingly distraught. Tries to message her, to call her, to contact her in any way. He either gets dismissive answers ('I can't tell you when I'm coming back, super busy gotta go') or stories that to me sounded like obvious fabrications. Several months passed, I think at one point like two months pretty much without them talking together - and I don't think more than 10 minutes passed during those two months where he didn't think about her. She's been gone for almost 2 years now - he only 'broke up' with her after she had been gone for 6 months or so. 3 months after that, he started dating a girl who was less attractive but far more compatible with him - they are still together, and to be honest, I think they are gonna stay together for a very long time.

I think if he had the option of marrying the first one to make her stay before she had to go back, he would've done it. And I think that would've been a terrible mistake.

We need updates. Want to know if she trapped you into giving here Canadian citizenship, like a few people I know (you can guess the end result)

marry her please, we need more posts

Your getting scammed bro. You should at least ask her for 10k for marrying her into canada.
Rub one out first before you marry her and see if you feel the same way.
'Girls are hard to find.' No not really, but if you feel the need to settle there is no shame in that. People marry for convenience all the time. Guys will shamelessly mail order a wife for sex because they have settled that its better than living life alone.

seems ridiculous. i'm not a people person but on paper this relationship won't work out. she sounds insecure and unwieldy. i don't understand your rationale at all. i'd break up with her and stop investing

This is going to sound a bit harsh, but your potential future with this girl (whether she's ideal for you or not) is not the least bit concerning compared to how you go about making life-changing (and possibly life ruining) decisions.

On December 24 2016 14:18 tomson wrote: This is going to sound a bit harsh, but your potential future with this girl (whether she's ideal for you or not) is not the least bit concerning compared to how you go about making life-changing (and possibly life ruining) decisions.

exactly what needed to be said

On December 23 2016 23:19 uiCk wrote: We need updates. Want to know if she trapped you into giving here Canadian citizenship, like a few people I know (you can guess the end result)

She never mentionned marriage.

Right now we're trying to get her to have work permit from her job or to extend her stay

On December 24 2016 14:18 tomson wrote: This is going to sound a bit harsh, but your potential future with this girl (whether she's ideal for you or not) is not the least bit concerning compared to how you go about making life-changing (and possibly life ruining) decisions.

Maybe i'm wrong but this seems a bit over the top. "life ruining". To me the worst case scenario would be she snaps breakup after getting in canada, and goes on social security for 3 years and it cost me like 30K.
but...
#1, there is a law that she actually is supposed to do genuine marriage for 2 years. Obviously, if she break that law, its very complex for me (gotta go in court etc), but essentially i can get her out of Canada. Doubt she would risk it.
#2 I highly doubt her love is 100% fake. Its not like i went in some high world country and bring back a random girl from it. SHE went here, and picked a guy she liked (she had tons of choice).
#3 From what i know of her, i highly doubt she would go on social security and sit on her ass. Right now she could do exactly that (let her bother feed her), but she prefers working.

Now, i'm not saying marriage is a smart choice, i just mean i think that "life ruining" is over the top.

how did you meet her anyway?

On December 26 2016 17:37 Floofy wrote: Maybe i'm wrong but this seems a bit over the top. "life ruining". To me the worst case scenario would be she snaps breakup after getting in canada, and goes on social security for 3 years and it cost me like 30K. .

Of course, because the WORST thing that can happen from a failed marriage is losing 30k LMAO.


The worst that can happen is you stay with her, she gets pregnant and you spawn a couple of children into this world while you realize that this isnt the woman you thought she were, you dont love her and she treats you worse every day but you keep going because you love your children, as bitter years go by, you yell at each other worse and worse, and dont even care about doing it in front of the children anymore and you thank the days where you played poker and learned to deal with frustration because otherwise you wouldnt be able to muster all your self control to not slap her across her face when she pushes your buttons.

So finally you decide to get a divoce, but she wont give it easily, this goes to court and gets ugly fast, you lose half your shit, and half your future check for the next 18 years, she uses your own children as hostages to extract even more money from you and you can barely see them so you start drinking a bit more than what you should, one rainy day in your 1 bedroom shitty apartment in a drunken stupor you remember that one thread in LiquidPoker.net where people told you not to fucking marry a girl you just dated for 3 weeks and that is the last memory you have before you blow your brains out.



Now thats how the worst scenario looks like lol.

LOLLL baal

lol.

btw real "Worst Case Scenario" actually looks like this.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deadly_Women

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LOL that was great baal

LOL one of your best posts ever Baal