is it really possible to forgive someone

think i made one of the biggest mistakes of my life

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Personally something dies. But as long as you can move past that, it can work. Totally differs from couple to couple.

I guess it depends on the level of cheating and even what you consider cheating? Like a drunk kiss/make out is something that's obviously easier to get past then full on sleeping with someone?

Personally I don't think I'd be able to go forward with a girl who cheated on me. But that's just me.

Depends on you. I would not tolerate that for myself unless the agreement was to be an open couple. Trust just goes away and that's just so important.

way too dependent on circumstances to give a black and white answer imo, there's just a billion variables between different couples. i'd say usually no, but sometimes yes/maybe.

A woman can forgive a man. A man can never forgive a woman.

When a man cheats he is usually just horny/drunk, and will even be more loving of his partner afterwards out of guilt.
When a woman cheats, she will never be able to respect his partner again.

Disclaimer: Huge sexist here.

agree with gotunk, save yourself more pain and just go on ..

"There's no such thing as forgiveness. People just have short memories." - True Detective

i always have to be sure i m sleeping with more ppl than the girl i m currently seeing is

no

prefer open relationships because I don't want to care...

You can forgive them, but that doesnt mean you can go back to having the same relationship afterward. There needs to be mutual respect as well as trust/love and for me the respect was never regained. Ofc your situation is different than mine, make your own judgement. Are you proud shes your girl still?

not sure who cheated on who.

i was the asshole who cheated

I would cut your dick off if you cheated on me.

NEI... not enuff info

oh. iunno man, you knew what you were doing not sure what you expect.

blog seems like a veiled brag that you got laid more than anything. seems you've done the same in previous blogs too just being real.

Odd timing, I just found out yesterday my long term live in g/f of the last 8 years cheated on me about 4 years ago. She had a one-night stand with some guy at a bar. I also found out she's made out with several other guys under similar conditions. An old coworker told me he hit it twice several years ago, but she says he's lying and he is rather ugly, kinda hard to believe. But the timing of it all and his absolutely confident nonchalant manner in telling me about it seemed genuine. And to top it all off, I'm actually the guy who she was cheating with on her previous boyfriend. Sooooooo.... there's that.

So rude of a cheating woman making me taste dick
If youre in an open relationship, you probably tasted tons

On April 25 2015 18:46 casinocasino wrote: prefer open relationships because I don't want to care...

i like the idea of open relationships. except the part about a bunch of other guys pounding my girlfriend, that seems like it would suck.

On April 26 2015 02:23 NewbSaibot wrote: I'm actually the guy who she was cheating with on her previous boyfriend. Sooooooo.... there's that.

What do you expect from her then? If she's willing to cheat on her ex, why would she not cheat on you. There have probably been more instances you don't even know about.. Idk, still shitty situation. Tough beat man

If she cheats with you
She will cheat on you
//wisdom

On April 26 2015 02:23 NewbSaibot wrote: And to top it all off, I'm actually the guy who she was cheating with on her previous boyfriend. Sooooooo.... there's that.

Yeah I dunno you guys. I guess I'm too oldschool? A girl cheats on me, it seems pretty black&white - ggnore.
Also girls that have a serious boyfriend and cheat on him with me without much resistance are good fuck buddies but try my best to avoid taking them seriously.


Also if we are commited in a longer term relationship if I cheat on her, unless I was like really drunk - it probably means she's not satisfying me in the first place and I'd really consider getting out of the relationship.

Don't put a guilt trip on yourself mnj, but think about why YOU did it in the first place.


And Saibot - heh. I guess propose an open relationship and fuck around as you please while keeping her. Or just leave.

ive been caught up in this years ago....except i wasnt cheating. never do it if you were friends with the girl. you will end up looking down on yourself and the girl. not to mention feeling bad for the other guy.

make the mistake once

as far as telling your girlfriend. you should man up despite the consequences. from what i know, trust and honesty is the most important thing. the relationship wont go on anyway if you dont(just a matter of time). you have a chance if you do.

Step 1) escrow money into interest bearing account
Step 2) agree to terms with girl you want to get into relationship with that whichever party is caught cheating will have to forfeit whatever is in said account.

If cheating is like some toy game where there are some incentives for a party to cheat before the other, an economic incentive like this might be nice.

It'll be very different i think, and never the same, if that kind of dynamic is better than no dynamic, i guess it's fine. I also think it takes a lot of time, and it varies a lot from person to person.

Personally I dont think I'd ever forgive, im even so strict, i don't hang, keep in touch much with people who cheat if i know the person who got cheated on, it hurts just thinking about it.

It's one of the shittiest thing u can do to another human, so not sure.

I live most of my life in my head, so probably more emotional, ideas, concepts more important than real things. Also that kind of pain runs much deeper, and lasts much longer, so the amount of pain is so much more than physical pain.

But if ur different, i guess u can forgive with a little time, and work out the issues and move on. I just don't know how to do that lol

On April 26 2015 04:48 bigredhoss wrote: Show nested quote + On April 25 2015 18:46 casinocasino wrote: prefer open relationships because I don't want to care... i like the idea of open relationships. except the part about a bunch of other guys pounding my girlfriend, that seems like it would suck.

if shes wants to bang a bunch of guys then she should never be in any relationship. But the reason I prefer open relationships is because I don't want to put myself in a position where I was being faithful and shes was out screwing around and I like the idea of having multiple girlfriends..


I bet most guys who have non serious relationships are banging a bunch of girls and are thinking that their
"girlfriend" is faithful. Yeah right..