Performance Anxiety

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pics or gtfo, this is all lieeeesssssss.

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U r tryin way too hard for what exactly I dunno

Floofy, I wouldn't suggest to use these "penis enhancement" pills....You're young and healthy and most of the ingredients in these are bullshit with little to no evidence behind them. If they really did anything, whoever developed it would submit a drug application to get approved by the FDA and make a gold mine; look at Viagra. Secondly, you just said you had sex an hour and a half. That seems good to me? I really think your first guess is spot on and you get anxiety that's causing you to not be able to finish, if that's the case it's psychological and these pills that are supposed to physically enhance your physiological erection are really out of line. Thirdly, I believe girls that don't want to have sex with the lights on can be a normal situation; mainly because the woman is self conscious of her own looks, but this really sucks for you. Men don't want to have nothing to look at, you should reassure her that she looks great and turn a light on. I'm sure being able to have some visuals to help stimulate you will help you be able to finish.

Also, you taking any street drugs or alcohol? Obviously these type of drugs can cause some unwanted effects. Also if you have depression SSRIs can have a side effect of sexual dysfunction. If you're taking one and its causing some erection problems you should talk to your doctor to either change the dose or switch to a different agent.

in before walls of texts.

On September 15 2013 20:15 Luhos wrote: Floofy, I wouldn't suggest to use these "penis enhancement" pills....You're young and healthy and most of the ingredients in these are bullshit with little to no evidence behind them. If they really did anything, whoever developed it would submit a drug application to get approved by the FDA and make a gold mine; look at Viagra. Secondly, you just said you had sex an hour and a half. That seems good to me? I really think your first guess is spot on and you get anxiety that's causing you to not be able to finish, if that's the case it's psychological and these pills that are supposed to physically enhance your physiological erection are really out of line. Thirdly, I believe girls that don't want to have sex with the lights on can be a normal situation; mainly because the woman is self conscious of her own looks, but this really sucks for you. Men don't want to have nothing to look at, you should reassure her that she looks great and turn a light on. I'm sure being able to have some visuals to help stimulate you will help you be able to finish. Also, you taking any street drugs or alcohol? Obviously these type of drugs can cause some unwanted effects. Also if you have depression SSRIs can have a side effect of sexual dysfunction. If you're taking one and its causing some erection problems you should talk to your doctor to either change the dose or switch to a different agent.

Hmmm ok thanks for the advice about pills. But i did hear of some people saying it worked for them... i don't really care about the money if its gonna fix my problem.

Also yes it lasted for 1h30, but keep in mind there was pauses, and my erection wasn't total the whole time, sometimes it got weaker. Sometimes at the end, it even went limp and had to kiss again and stuff to get it back.

ur probably right about the lights

Don't need all of this diagnostics.

Stop jerking off. Your challenge then will be balancing how not to bust too early but the benefits are well worth it. Eventually it will all go full circle and the benefits of your not jerking off will infact help you bust when appropriate.

On September 15 2013 20:42 2c0ntent wrote: Don't need all of this diagnostics. Stop jerking off. Your challenge then will be balancing how not to bust too early but the benefits are well worth it. Eventually it will all go full circle and the benefits of your not jerking off will infact help you bust when appropriate.

if anything a lot of women seems to prefer a short but intense session, over someone who last for an hour but isn't even fully erect.

So you think just stopping (or dratically reducing) masturbation can solve this?

btw. to get best sex in ur life take mdma in crystals - avoid pills

do you do the male equivalent of kegals?

You were lacking in visual excitation on top of physical stimulation from wearing a condom (I'm guessing, and hoping)... I don't even know how you could desire to go at it for 1h30 in such a situation. I think you need one or the other, otherwise it just doesn't sound exciting at all to me. I don't think it's a good experience/sample to decide whether or not you have some kind of anxiety issue in bed. If you weren't excited from the beginning then it's probably because of your masturbation habits, yeah. If you don't get excited easily in general (I am somewhat like that) then you'll be in a better situation if you have a partner with which you don't have to use a condom as contraception. With random girls like that though you have to be safe which sucks... it's only really good if she can finish you off orally.

women are usually more insecure and get distracted/turned off by random stuff easier, that's why many of them prefer the lights closed.This changes over time if things go great at sex imo
You should enjoy the banging process while it happens because if you don't women will smell it from a mile away and their own insecurities will start popping up and destroying what's left of the mood. If you have a nice time and don't give the vibe that you're trying too much to make something work (performance anxiety?? wtf this isn't a concert, more like a jam session ) most women will relax too and start enjoying everything more.

I'm obv not saying that you shouldn't try to please her, I'm saying do it without forgetting to have a nice time yourself. You aren't Peter North and this isn't a competition; you think that by overachieving in sex you'll keep the woman, but trying too hard brings the opposite result, because it doesn't smell self confidence. Btw you should do some introspection to find out why you would even need to impress random girls this much by over performing , my guess is that your life is centered too much in sex and the way women see you, try in some way to get more content with being just by yourself, get your own genuine self approval and such forms of anxiety will dissolve with time

On September 16 2013 07:14 Loco wrote: You were lacking in visual excitation on top of physical stimulation from wearing a condom (I'm guessing, and hoping)... I don't even know how you could desire to go at it for 1h30 in such a situation. I think you need one or the other, otherwise it just doesn't sound exciting at all to me. I don't think it's a good experience/sample to decide whether or not you have some kind of anxiety issue in bed. If you weren't excited from the beginning then it's probably because of your masturbation habits, yeah. If you don't get excited easily in general (I am somewhat like that) then you'll be in a better situation if you have a partner with which you don't have to use a condom as contraception. With random girls like that though you have to be safe which sucks... it's only really good if she can finish you off orally.

so true, in the dark+condom+ 2 day masturbation marathon what sort of experience did you expect floofy lol

+100 on the condoms ... such a huge difference

Oh yeah I just remembered something... if you really do think you have a problem with this, you would benefit from looking into it. It's sometimes referred to as the "law of reverse effort" (or effect). I first read about this years ago in a book by Viktor Frankl, the neurologist/psychiatrist. I just dug up a random hypnosis website which has a pretty clear explanation of it: http://www.southernhypnosis.com.au/about/The_Law_Of_Reversed_Effect/

In my experience it is very true and it's quite likely to be your problem. Basically, your conscious mind is interfering with what should be automatic (dealt by the unconscious). Just like it is when you consciously try to fall asleep, it's not enough to actually make you sleep, and actually produces the very opposite reaction. The more you fear becoming flaccid and the more you want to impress her and perform, the less likely it will happen, and the more likely the opposite will happen, because the conscious mind doesn't have control over bodily processes, so it simply interferes. On the other hand if you somehow condition yourself to treat such a matter with very little importance and allow your mind to relax, there will be no interference and it'll solve the problem. If it doesn't, 'performance anxiety' isn't your problem, and it's time to get that Viagra, old man. Now, seeing how hasty you are to solve your problem with money, please don't start looking for an hypnotherapist... you don't need it, just a little bit of research and perhaps learn some meditation technique and it should do it.

After 3-4 times with same girl, problems will vanish without you doing anything special.

You can't change girl every week and expect sex to be perfect. Every guy experienced this after getting a new girl at least once in their life, you are not special.

Why is everybody making it so complicated? Not the way to go LOL.

On September 16 2013 07:44 lebowski wrote: women are usually more insecure and get distracted/turned off by random stuff easier, that's why many of them prefer the lights closed.This changes over time if things go great at sex imo You should enjoy the banging process while it happens because if you don't women will smell it from a mile away and their own insecurities will start popping up and destroying what's left of the mood. If you have a nice time and don't give the vibe that you're trying too much to make something work (performance anxiety?? wtf this isn't a concert, more like a jam session ) most women will relax too and start enjoying everything more. I'm obv not saying that you shouldn't try to please her, I'm saying do it without forgetting to have a nice time yourself. You aren't Peter North and this isn't a competition; you think that by overachieving in sex you'll keep the woman, but trying too hard brings the opposite result, because it doesn't smell self confidence. Btw you should do some introspection to find out why you would even need to impress random girls this much by over performing , my guess is that your life is centered too much in sex and the way women see you, try in some way to get more content with being just by yourself, get your own genuine self approval and such forms of anxiety will dissolve with time

I do try to perform pretty well because it makes me think i'm more likely to see them again. I remember the second girl i had sex with, i was really good with her (could last forever, good size, hard erections, and she really loved the way i ate her). This girl i recently added her on facebook and one of the first thing she asked me to do was to go fuck her ASAP.But yea, i'm starting to think i might be better off just doing a more "normal" time, like 20-30 min, but being sure i actually cum at the end, and that my erection quality is good, instead of trying to last sick ammount of times but sometimes mess up things.

On September 16 2013 01:04 Gnarly wrote: do you do the male equivalent of kegals?

occasionally but not in a serious way. is that important?

On September 16 2013 07:14 Loco wrote: You were lacking in visual excitation on top of physical stimulation from wearing a condom (I'm guessing, and hoping)... I don't even know how you could desire to go at it for 1h30 in such a situation. I think you need one or the other, otherwise it just doesn't sound exciting at all to me. I don't think it's a good experience/sample to decide whether or not you have some kind of anxiety issue in bed. If you weren't excited from the beginning then it's probably because of your masturbation habits, yeah. If you don't get excited easily in general (I am somewhat like that) then you'll be in a better situation if you have a partner with which you don't have to use a condom as contraception. With random girls like that though you have to be safe which sucks... it's only really good if she can finish you off orally.

I def don't get excited as easily as when i was a teen. As a teen, a simple boobie pic could get me rock hard. Looking at girls in class could get me rock hard. Sometimes nothing at all could get me rock hard! Nowadays i kinda need either a video or touching/kissing an IRL girl.

Btw, you guys seem to be forgetting about the whole bed sound!!! it might sound stupid but its a serious turn off to hear this massive sound produced by the bed, that was way worst than the dark.

Well, I can believe that. I've had a problem with my bed banging against the wall, but it's because I'm afraid other people will hear... it's definitely distracting, but you seem to have a bigger problem than that alone.

On September 16 2013 10:38 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On September 16 2013 01:04 Gnarly wrote: do you do the male equivalent of kegals? occasionally but not in a serious way. is that important?

It helps. Better control of nutting, better control of pissing, and if you do it for life, it should help against ED.

Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin.

On September 16 2013 14:36 nerdonpoker wrote: Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin.

but this girl is like anti alcool, anti drugs, anti parties, anti smoking, anti everything. She's way too stuck up... i'm no longer like i was at the beginning of looks or game, i can now pretty easily pick up meh girls, so i won't bother chasing some chicks that is being complicated for stupid reasons.

On September 16 2013 15:21 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On September 16 2013 14:36 nerdonpoker wrote: Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin. but this girl is like anti alcool, anti drugs, anti parties, anti smoking, anti everything. She's way too stuck up... i'm no longer like i was at the beginning of looks or game, i can now pretty easily pick up meh girls, so i won't bother chasing some chicks that is being complicated for stupid reasons.

Why would you pick up meh girls? Everyone can do that lol. I have always avoided meh girls because too many guys can get them.

On September 16 2013 15:29 nlloser60 wrote: Show nested quote + On September 16 2013 15:21 Floofy wrote:   On September 16 2013 14:36 nerdonpoker wrote: Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin. but this girl is like anti alcool, anti drugs, anti parties, anti smoking, anti everything. She's way too stuck up... i'm no longer like i was at the beginning of looks or game, i can now pretty easily pick up meh girls, so i won't bother chasing some chicks that is being complicated for stupid reasons. Why would you pick up meh girls? Everyone can do that lol. I have always avoided meh girls because too many guys can get them.

because i can easily do that

Also sometimes meh girls will be more likely to put up less bullshit. I just avoid really ugly ones... those that seems to get bad looks on purpose.

Did you check for a hidden penor while lights were off?

I'd invest at least 3-4 weeks for a virgin man come on. 1 night and you give up ?

you gonna have a hard time getting a meaningful and committed relationship if you keep up your current mentality and attitude towards women. Sex is great and can keep her around but it won't be the end all.

On September 16 2013 09:16 Graisseux wrote: After 3-4 times with same girl, problems will vanish without you doing anything special.

Exactly! It sounds like you lasted so long because you were either nervous or focusing too hard on pleasing her. I'm pretty positive if you hooked up with the same girl more than once the problem would vanish completely. Also, if you met her at a bar and were drinking the alcohol could have played a factor as well.

Women requesting to have sex in the dark isn't an unusual thing at all. Women are very self conscious about their bodies and there is always that fear that the guy they are with will judge them naked. Requesting to turn the lights off was simply done to make the situation more comfortable for her, especially since she had just met you.

The idea of a virgin is really nice, but the reality is really overated. Banging a virgin girl is rarely fun/good. (3x experience, 3x pretty meh).

How old are you Flooofy?

And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture...

seriously Floofy be a man and just start streaming videos

be sure u didnt masturbate a day or two before having sex

On September 16 2013 17:28 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On September 16 2013 15:29 nlloser60 wrote:   On September 16 2013 15:21 Floofy wrote:   On September 16 2013 14:36 nerdonpoker wrote: Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin. but this girl is like anti alcool, anti drugs, anti parties, anti smoking, anti everything. She's way too stuck up... i'm no longer like i was at the beginning of looks or game, i can now pretty easily pick up meh girls, so i won't bother chasing some chicks that is being complicated for stupid reasons. Why would you pick up meh girls? Everyone can do that lol. I have always avoided meh girls because too many guys can get them. because i can easily do that Also sometimes meh girls will be more likely to put up less bullshit. I just avoid really ugly ones... those that seems to get bad looks on purpose.

LOL, wasting time on meh girls who can get picked up by most guys is lame imho . I wouldn't enjoy sex with girl that I know is easy to pick up.

On September 17 2013 02:07 careface_ wrote: The idea of a virgin is really nice, but the reality is really overated. Banging a virgin girl is rarely fun/good. (3x experience, 3x pretty meh). How old are you Flooofy?

agreed with this guy. Its more trouble and they're less good, bleh.

On September 17 2013 02:08 careface_ wrote: And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture...

no i don't post pictures of the girls, kinda for respect for them. I guess the bitch ones i could post pictures thought.
Mainly cuz i know loco would jump on the occasion to share it with them.

On September 17 2013 07:57 nlloser60 wrote: Show nested quote + On September 16 2013 17:28 Floofy wrote:   On September 16 2013 15:29 nlloser60 wrote:   On September 16 2013 15:21 Floofy wrote:   On September 16 2013 14:36 nerdonpoker wrote: Your suppose to get the virgin drunk before you start snugglin. but this girl is like anti alcool, anti drugs, anti parties, anti smoking, anti everything. She's way too stuck up... i'm no longer like i was at the beginning of looks or game, i can now pretty easily pick up meh girls, so i won't bother chasing some chicks that is being complicated for stupid reasons. Why would you pick up meh girls? Everyone can do that lol. I have always avoided meh girls because too many guys can get them. because i can easily do that Also sometimes meh girls will be more likely to put up less bullshit. I just avoid really ugly ones... those that seems to get bad looks on purpose. LOL, wasting time on meh girls who can get picked up by most guys is lame imho . I wouldn't enjoy sex with girl that I know is easy to pick up.

i'm not "wasting time", meh girls can usually be picked up the first night. if i see its gonna be complicated i move to the next one, always flirting with 5-6 of them so whatever lol

i'm annoyed when it takes too long/too complicated.

On September 17 2013 08:27 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On September 17 2013 02:08 careface_ wrote: And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture... no i don't post pictures of the girls, kinda for respect for them. I guess the bitch ones i could post pictures thought. Mainly cuz i know loco would jump on the occasion to share it with them.

>respect for them
>bitch ones

xD

On September 17 2013 11:21 Gnarly wrote: Show nested quote + On September 17 2013 08:27 Floofy wrote:   On September 17 2013 02:08 careface_ wrote: And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture... no i don't post pictures of the girls, kinda for respect for them. I guess the bitch ones i could post pictures thought. Mainly cuz i know loco would jump on the occasion to share it with them. >respect for them >bitch ones xD

i don't have respect for those who sleep with me on first night and then doesn't see me again.

i have performance anxiety when it comes to playing poker

On September 17 2013 13:38 k4ir0s wrote: i have performance anxiety when it comes to playing poker

I used to have that. Eventually i stopped caring and stopped the anxiety, but then i sucked at poker so i had to quit. lol

On September 17 2013 08:27 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On September 17 2013 02:08 careface_ wrote: And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture... no i don't post pictures of the girls, kinda for respect for them. I guess the bitch ones i could post pictures thought. Mainly cuz i know loco would jump on the occasion to share it with them.

God, you are so fucking dense. You really piss me off. I already told you I didn't care and couldn't even do that if I cared to. You live in a different city than me, we share no mutual friends, and how the fuck am I supposed to know a girl's name by her picture so that I can contact her? The only way would be through Facebook, if you somehow had all your friends public and they somehow had their photos public and I somehow thought it was a good idea to waste my time going through them to be sure it's the right person. Just to make you aware, I just searched for you on Facebook and I see that all your friends are private. There's no way for me to do this, and I think you know it and you're just being an asshole. The only thing I found are these pics of your ex-gf (is that the one who broke your heart cuz she was always online with other guys playing some game?):

+ Show Spoiler +

Now we're even and I have nothing left to use against you, so don't cowardly use me as an excuse again for avoiding to post pics of some ugly chicks you slept with or want to sleep with.

she cute!

We need pic of your erect penis, so we can better assess.

WTF - floofy you had like the exact same issue a few blogs ago and I suggested something that will work

Don't get any pills - just get a cock ring





/thread

ps - when I wear a condom I don't cum either, but I can always finish from head/handjob - and if she is awful at head, which I think is a large majority are pretty bad. Once you have that amazing orally talented woman you'll compare everything to that experience. I basically force the terrible ones to do what that one amazing girl did and most can end up finishing me with that.

On September 17 2013 13:38 k4ir0s wrote: i have performance anxiety when it comes to playing poker

Just use a condom!!

On September 18 2013 07:42 Svenman87 wrote: WTF - floofy you had like the exact same issue a few blogs ago and I suggested something that will work Don't get any pills - just get a cock ring /thread ps - when I wear a condom I don't cum either, but I can always finish from head/handjob - and if she is awful at head, which I think is a large majority are pretty bad. Once you have that amazing orally talented woman you'll compare everything to that experience. I basically force the terrible ones to do what that one amazing girl did and most can end up finishing me with that.

totally agree, there is a LARGE difference between majority of the girls and one that knows what shes doing. People who disagree haven't had a good cock sucker.

On September 18 2013 04:42 Loco wrote: Show nested quote + On September 17 2013 08:27 Floofy wrote:   On September 17 2013 02:08 careface_ wrote: And your blog is in need of at least... a little picture... no i don't post pictures of the girls, kinda for respect for them. I guess the bitch ones i could post pictures thought. Mainly cuz i know loco would jump on the occasion to share it with them. God, you are so fucking dense. You really piss me off. I already told you I didn't care and couldn't even do that if I cared to. You live in a different city than me, we share no mutual friends, and how the fuck am I supposed to know a girl's name by her picture so that I can contact her? The only way would be through Facebook, if you somehow had all your friends public and they somehow had their photos public and I somehow thought it was a good idea to waste my time going through them to be sure it's the right person. Just to make you aware, I just searched for you on Facebook and I see that all your friends are private. There's no way for me to do this, and I think you know it and you're just being an asshole. The only thing I found are these pics of your ex-gf (is that the one who broke your heart cuz she was always online with other guys playing some game?): + Show Spoiler + Now we're even and I have nothing left to use against you, so don't cowardly use me as an excuse again for avoiding to post pics of some ugly chicks you slept with or want to sleep with.

how did u find it

She says she loves you on your wall and you say you love her too. It's an old public post. It's pretty much all there is to see without being friends with you.

whatever i might post some pics later when i get back home.

Also prolly gonna do another post... fucked a new one yesterday. Ironically, she's way less good looking than the last chick, but everything went just fine. Seems like simply cutting back on jerking off and taking my herbs is all i needed.

Just curious, did she post something about it on her Facebook wall?

On September 18 2013 09:29 Loco wrote: Just curious, did she post something about it on her Facebook wall?

on a blog, yes. Are u still trying to harm me or something?

No... why would I want to hurt you? I've already said we were even. I saw the blog earlier when I went on your Facebook, she seems very happy........ lol. She seems to think that this might lead to a serious relationship. You can trust me, I won't do anything. I really have no reason to fuck with you. You can post her pics, it doesn't concern me.

Also it's kind of funny that you are both talking about each other somewhere public on the net right after it happened.

On September 18 2013 09:39 Loco wrote: No... why would I want to hurt you? I've already said we were even. I saw the blog earlier when I went on your Facebook, she seems very happy........ lol. She seems to think that this might lead to a serious relationship. Also it's kind of funny that you are both talking about each other/the sex you had somewhere public on the net.

ok good but... how did you find that lol

yea she is happy... i don't see this leading some a serious love relationship but hey, i thought the same when i first slept with my ex.

It's really not that hard to figure out. You posted a new profile picture and received some likes. Whoever it is you have slept with is almost guaranteed to have liked the picture so I had a look. In those who liked it there was only one possibility. Like I said your friends are private, but if they are liking your profile picture it's possible to see them. She happened to have a public profile as well.

Note that I would have never found her and your ex if you didn't make me search for your page by giving me something to be pissed about (and I was lucky to remember your name). Again though, don't worry about me getting involved. Just because I might have done something 4 or 5 years ago that pissed you off (*actually I didn't, look at the post below) doesn't mean I have any interest in fucking with your life now.

Btw Floofy, I am currently rereading the thread with Fayth (and found some gems such as ASDF ASDF ASDF ASDF SICK TILT) and I found something Sennpu wrote. I can't quote it normally because the thread is closed: (http://www.liquidpoker.net/poker-forum/410813/153/Looks_or_Game_.html)

There is nothing childish in refusing to post Info that <<would entertain people>> he's not forced to do so, but >_> this is retarded to put all fault on Loco and Fayth, at the base this is all ur fault floofy for posting everything here so they arent responsible for what happened + i am the one that told her about this thread when u were in vacancies However u failed hard and this is for your good and there is nothing u can say against that. >_> u should kinda thx loco and fayth instead of crying + <<he's still able to find her on doyoulookgood>> Just dont post her name etc. it simple use <<girl>> to refer to her lol or a Fictive name like hum Josue dunno xD

So it turns out it wasn't me, even though you claimed it was. I didn't remember and I sort of gave you the benefit of the doubt. You were wrong.

Looks like you're just ashamed of the girls youve been dating.

Nothing wrong liking fatties namsaying

Just saw a documentary on fat ppl, they seem to have it really rough. Which is a little lol, since I'm trying really hard to get as fat as I can, I'm eating peanutbutter, whole milk, meat, cream fraiche!!, butter, coconut oil, pasta, rice, eggs n stuff every day, never been this heavy, I even stomp my feets a little extra when I walk just to show people I mean business.

floofy's blog is the new rofl thread

pointy elbows would not bang

i don't know if any part of that girl's body can be described as "pointy"

Hey floofy, what's your name?