My friend keeps gaining weight!

I would tell her before the movie, dont let that bitch get popcorn and sour patch kids and a slurpee.

You have to be slick about how you say it. DO THIS. Give her a hug when you see her and say something like "I used to be able to get my hands all the way around you when we hugged, fatty"

On January 14 2011 13:21 YouGoTGoT wrote: I would tell her before the movie, dont let that bitch get popcorn and sour patch kids and a slurpee. You have to be slick about how you say it. DO THIS. Give her a hug when you see her and say something like "I used to be able to get my hands all the way around you when we hugged, fatty"

ahahaahha , MAAAAAAN from my previous experience never talk to a woman about her weight ...

On January 14 2011 13:29 r0mx0 wrote: Show nested quote + On January 14 2011 13:21 YouGoTGoT wrote: I would tell her before the movie, dont let that bitch get popcorn and sour patch kids and a slurpee. You have to be slick about how you say it. DO THIS. Give her a hug when you see her and say something like "I used to be able to get my hands all the way around you when we hugged, fatty" ahahaahha , MAAAAAAN from my previous experience never talk to a woman about her weight ...

she is gona go nut but its gona works
just tell her she is fat

lol you guys are useless :D but its a pretty hard topic to give advice on I reckon..

lol shit, if you're that worried about her a little bit of hard truth may make her hate you for a bit but she'll get that you're trying to help her. make it very clear what your intentions are: and that's not to hurt her but to help her.

No matter how you go about this depending on her personality it'll probably end bad. I mean if you run good and she has a chill personality with a fairly high self esteem she won't go apeshit. I got friends who i gave mad shit for being fat. Maybe that's why she became much thinner over the years

Women nowadays always expect to hear what they want to hear, not what they need to hear. Pisses me off sometimes.

Call her a grenade

tell her how you've been seeing girls that don't cast shadows that resemble the hindenburg

She allready knows she's a fatty
and probablty think about it everyday.

The problem is that I think that she is likely to brush it off or whatever is all, she does have a really chill personality and she isn't going to get super upset. But I Guess if she wants to brush it off/let it go and not pay attention to it that's her choice. I can't make her care that she is getting to an unhealthy weight I guess..

Try to get her to go on a hike with you or a walk, and whenever you go out to eat with her, make sure you eat at a healthy place. Not sure how close you are or how much time you spend together, but typically if one person starts working out and eating healthy, it will get the other to. If that doesn't work, then just tell her you are concerned, but don't expect a nice outcome.

The trick is to say something tactical that wont make it obvious ur calling her fat

"have you weighed yourself lately?"

are u afraid that ur gonna be ashamed when someone asks "u used to go out with HER?!" ?

On January 14 2011 13:18 Night2o1 wrote: Looking to sort of bounce this off of you guys

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOLLLL

I guess that the best advice would be to ask another women, how to deal with it.

On January 14 2011 14:01 Augury wrote: Try to get her to go on a hike with you or a walk, and whenever you go out to eat with her, make sure you eat at a healthy place. Not sure how close you are or how much time you spend together, but typically if one person starts working out and eating healthy, it will get the other to. If that doesn't work, then just tell her you are concerned, but don't expect a nice outcome.

Best advice so far if you really care about her. But you honestly can't win. Another suggestion might be to try and join a gym together, but you still can't win. Exactly how fat is she? It's not bad to be chubby, you should post some before and after pics of her.

send her a fruit basket

On January 14 2011 14:40 XoXthajmanXoX wrote: Show nested quote + On January 14 2011 14:01 Augury wrote: Try to get her to go on a hike with you or a walk, and whenever you go out to eat with her, make sure you eat at a healthy place. Not sure how close you are or how much time you spend together, but typically if one person starts working out and eating healthy, it will get the other to. If that doesn't work, then just tell her you are concerned, but don't expect a nice outcome. Best advice so far if you really care about her. But you honestly can't win. Another suggestion might be to try and join a gym together, but you still can't win. Exactly how fat is she? It's not bad to be chubby, you should post some before and after pics of her.

um...thats not definitely not going to work...the only way for a person to control their weight is by gaining some good knowledge and habits so that they take care of themselves.

On January 14 2011 13:21 YouGoTGoT wrote: I would tell her before the movie, dont let that bitch get popcorn and sour patch kids and a slurpee. You have to be slick about how you say it. DO THIS. Give her a hug when you see her and say something like "I used to be able to get my hands all the way around you when we hugged, fatty"

hahaha tbh this might be sorta genius plan man.

For sure do not tell her she is fat when there is other people around

When my sister started getting fat after high school I would call her a hamster every time I saw her bc she could put food away for days in those chubby cheeks. Now she's skinny as a rail. That should legit work if you normally rip on people all the time like i do and just make jokes about it all the time til she's skinny.

is she bothering you about your unhealthy gambling habits ? NO. leave her alone then.

tell her to get an adderall prescription it will help her stop eating.

be like those hollywood bitches in no time

Tell her that there are other foods other than cheeseburgers and malts.

tell her u cant have sex with her when she is fat and then punch her on the arm T_T
I can guarantee for this working !

just say wow ur getting fat and poke her stomach

She already knows, I'd just not say anything. Its -ev and you'll get nothing accomplished.

On January 14 2011 15:42 thewh00sel wrote: When my sister started getting fat after high school I would call her a hamster every time I saw her bc she could put food away for days in those chubby cheeks. Now she's skinny as a rail. That should legit work if you normally rip on people all the time like i do and just make jokes about it all the time til she's skinny.

LOL I do the same with my sisters hahaha, I'm so mean

On January 14 2011 16:48 PplusAD wrote: tell her u cant have sex with her when she is fat and then punch her on the arm T_T I can guarantee for this working !

aren't you some MMA guy? having considered that, i rethought my point and came to the conclusion that punching fat chicks is ok (probably mandatory)

http://lifehacker.com/5715912/how-to-plant-ideas-in-someones-mind

Talking from experience (been fat till 15 years old) lost most of it 16 up to this day

-fat people always think theyre "not that fat"
-we hate criticism if we dont plan on losing weight
-we appreciate it and think people are concerned once we try to lose weight and see it as motivation


fat people have set their minds already

Start calling her moped, and she will pick up on your joke after a while. Subtle, yet you get your point across

thanks whamm

youve been going to the gym recently, so invite her along.

shes probably really body conscious, and its too daunting for her to go alone.

its a tough pattern to fall out of. would probably help if she had skinny friends

LOL you're so getting into troubles if you say anything about her weight ... Fuck that, let her deal with it by her own, moreover if you don't plan to hit her ass in a near future.

there is no cute way to approach this
tell her she s fat

I'm sure she is aware of her fatness.

If you care to help her, then talk about it.

If not, then I don't think your words will help exactly..

well I have invited her to goto the gym with me, like a month ago or so, but she said no thanks there's a gym closer to her. Problem is of course that she isn't going regularly on her own and her work+school schedule is pretty volatile. I might just invite her to the gym again.

On January 15 2011 13:26 Night2o1 wrote: well I have invited her to goto the gym with me, like a month ago or so, but she said no thanks there's a gym closer to her. Problem is of course that she isn't going regularly on her own and her work+school schedule is pretty volatile. I might just invite her to the gym again.

night you already have the solution....asking her to work out with you is it imo...of course she doesnt want to go gym....coz she would know she is unfit....just ask her to play sports with you...like tennis/squash or something...coz then it's like your going to go "play a game" instead of going to "work out"...mindset will be different

true

rofl gold

lots of great posts in this thread but personally i wouldn't tell her straight up that she's fat. it's frankly not your business to tell her how she should live her life unless she is taking the fast track to being morbidly obese. maybe there are certain other overarching issues that you may have not realized that need to be taken care of before anything else.

for now i would just let her know that you're always interested in her well-being as a close friend. the method is up to you i guess.

nice post dude

nah though tbh i have a fat friend as well and I'm worried about her also. Shes really fat though like obese now. Doctors telling her to lose weight n stuff. Me and my bestfriend dunno how to tell her. Only thing we did was try to invite her to work out with us ( she went with us to buy p90x) BUt she declined. Havent brought it up since.

Also Im fat to tbh. Never finished that p90. But i know when people call me fat or girl mentions my stomach or something I definitely get motivated to work out. My problem is I don't keep at it lol. Also to many people say "your not fat your just big when I call myself a fatass " so that doesn't help motivate me either. I guess its a bit different b/c im a guy and someone calling me fat would never hurt my feelings cause well its true?

you never really know how fat you are until you see pictures of yourself, and by that i mean REAL focus on your pictures. fat people tend to not look at pictures or videos of themselves but are comfortable with mirrors since it somehow keeps the delusion going that nothing is wrong. personally the only time i ever made a conscious effort to lose all the weight was when my grandma died and i had a lot of pictures of myself during the wake and funeral which prompted me to wake up to what the situation really was. saying or telling them wont make them lose weight one bit. plus theres always that feeling of resentment towards you afterwards

That is 100% true actually. I hate pictures of myself. And I'm pretty sure whenever I do see a pic of myself I go to the gym the next day. Especially when you are next to all your friends in shape