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DustySwedeDude   Sweden. Dec 30 2013 12:19. Posts 8623
Ok so I wanted to ask you guys about a situation I have.

We've had crap knives in our kitchen for a while. This annoyed me for a long time but not enough so that I actually bought new ones. A couple of days before Christmas I buy a 15 USD knife, which believe it or not made a huge difference in how fun I find our kitchen and now I want good knives. For Christmas my mother-in-law got us a 30-40 USD knife set. I don't like how they look and I would not have bought them myself.

I decide that I want good knives so I googled a bit and got myself a somewhat expensive set of knives for about 500 USD. I got a set like it for my parents like 5 years ago or something like that so I know they're very good since my dad uses them a lot and they still seem to hold up without any issues.

When I told my gf this she figured it was kind of out of line to buy new knives a week after we got some as a gift for Christmas.

I on the other hand feel that while she had a good idea to get us better knives I don't see why I'd have to use a bunch of cheap ones just because I got them as a gift. I'd rather get a bunch of very good knives myself then a bunch of cheap ones as a gift.

Would it have been in better taste to just wait a couple of months or whatever before I got them?

For me it seemed like a obvious thing to just get knives when I want knives and I have the money, but I know that I tend to be rather autistic about these kinds of situations so I figured I'd ask you guys.

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ToT)MidiaN(    United Kingdom. Dec 30 2013 12:24. Posts 5070

I think it's a bit of a slap in the face to the person who got you the knives as a gift.... I know I'd feel like I wasted my time and money if I bought someone something which they replaced like a week later :O

I can understand your point of view also, but I personally would've prob waited a couple of months if I cared about the person who gave me the gift.

Def take what I say with a pinch of salt though cause I'm one of those people who are simply way too nice and put way too much thought into how my actions may effect other people... I think most people will say what you've done is completely normal and acceptable

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locoo   Peru. Dec 30 2013 12:27. Posts 4561

Just get the knives and hide them/use the ones they gifted you whenever your mother in law is around, win/win

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f1shcake   United States. Dec 30 2013 12:30. Posts 287

^ this


RaiNKhAN    United States. Dec 30 2013 12:38. Posts 4080

fuck knives get money

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Santafairy   Korea (South). Dec 30 2013 12:40. Posts 2224

There should be enough autism to go around. I mean that I am the same way, but about giving gifts, because I want desperately not to spam someone with boxes of shit they think is useless. So some of it rests on the person who got the gift, knowing gift giving doesn't always work out perfectly. In this specific case maybe you could use your mother-in-law's set to practice your skills at throwing knives.

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Achoo   Canada. Dec 30 2013 12:42. Posts 1454

Well you have to put the importance of knives in relation with the importance of having a sex life for the next month.

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GoTuNk   Chile. Dec 30 2013 13:42. Posts 2860

you are just too nice. I don't know in which world I'd spend 500 bucks on knifes though, I'd rather tear meat up with my teeth for that money

Edit: As it seems things are getting serious with your gf, you should establish an atmosphere were whatever you want and think its the most important and the last word. She can participate but all final decisions should always be yours.

 Last edit: 30/12/2013 14:18

Raidern   Brasil. Dec 30 2013 14:22. Posts 4243

What does that set of knives look like? Curious. BTW about the uncomfortable situation, if you are buying expensive knives then you should tell your mother-in-law that you wanted to buy that set of knives for a long time and were about to do it when she bought that set for you. Make it clear that you really appreciate she did it and it was just unfortunate that she had the idea before you actually purchased. Telling the truth is the best option imo, considering you actually want a good set. Else you'll "have to" either stick to the set she gave you or keep lying and changing knives whenever she shows up. That's what I would do if I were in your shoes anyway. -Edit-: actually what I would do is keep her knives and not buy new ones, but if I wanted to buy a good one, then...

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goose58   United States. Dec 30 2013 14:42. Posts 871

You could just be honest and say you really appreciate the gift, they are nice knives, but you were thinking about buying a special, very high quality set.

If I bought someone headphones and they wanted to return them to upgrade to a higher quality pair, that's fine with me personally. The point of a gift is to make someone happy.

It seems to me to be a little absurd to spend $500 on knives though. What's the difference between $40 knives and $500 knives anyways? Are the handles, blades and block really that much better?

First world problems, lol.


SpasticInk   Sweden. Dec 30 2013 15:36. Posts 6298

Use a white lie. Say you had already ordered some knifes which is hard to return.

Not a big deal this, if you have a good relationship with your stepmom then she should understand. Just say it was a nice gift and that it was what you wanted, but you were looking for a different brand...


SpasticInk   Sweden. Dec 30 2013 15:39. Posts 6298

I think if someone is offended by this (as a giver), then they have their own issues. You can't really expect that every gift you give away is appreciated?


Trav94   Canada. Dec 30 2013 16:09. Posts 1785

well played


Fayth    Canada. Dec 30 2013 16:13. Posts 10085

meh I might have waited a bit longer than that... you seem to have survived quite a long time without good knives, few extra months wouldn't have mattered and no issues would have been raised

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gawdawaful   Canada. Dec 30 2013 16:22. Posts 9012

Not a good idea. But if you dont think it'll put your relationship with your inlaws, as well as your gf's relationship with her family, in any weird situations (or you simply dont give a fuck) then by all means go for it. Otherwise give it some time

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gawdawaful   Canada. Dec 30 2013 16:24. Posts 9012

goose, its usually the blade and the steel quality, and how the handles are. The $40 knives are usually attainable for like $5 in asia which means they're manufactured for like $1. And lol at being honest btw.

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Bullshit   Canada. Dec 30 2013 16:44. Posts 738

definitely not out of line her getting on you about getting new knives you wanted however is


Mortensen8   Chad. Dec 30 2013 16:59. Posts 1841


That's all I've used my entire life, maybe not the best for raw meat but I get by. Not worth having argument with gf.

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cariadon   Estonia. Dec 30 2013 17:07. Posts 4019

Interesting topic, i'll drop my 2 cents.

This is NOT about time. Giving it a month won't make the issue disappear.
I'll take the girlfriends side on this one. It isn't about the knives, it is about being in a relationship and compromises. The seemingly irrational thoughts and feelings she has are completely justified in my eyes. I repeat, this isn't about the knives and she would agree. If the shitty knives didn't bother you for a long time then probably they aren't that important to begin with. Good knife skills are more important and get you further than picking a really expensive knife you wouldn't be able to appreciate blindfolded.

For me this would be an easy slam dunk yes for your firlgriend but for two reasons this isn't reality.
1. The cat is out of the bag and regardless of what you both (hopefully) decide neither solution won't be perfect.
2. You have crossed the ever so thin line of mother-in-law gray area.

I propose two outcomes.
1. You choose to buy expensive knives and enjoy cooking meals for one under a disapproving, glaring gaze of your girlfriend who is wearing locket jewelry with a little picture of her mother inside it.
2. You do the reasonable thing. (Whatever it is that brings peace back on earth, highly dependant on your table image and dynamics.)

Take it from someone who has been down this path of tablewear arguments with real life experience and do the reasonable thing. You only need like 3 knives to cover 99% of what needs done. I'd recommend getting a comfortable chefs knife so your first meals don't taste too sour and keeping the set given to you.

Sidenote: the set wasn't only given to you but with your girlfriend in mind aswell so she might feel it is a gift to her in some way. Maybe it was her idea in the first place if she noticed you bitching about shitty knives. Meditate on this shit, it is layered like an onion.

Lastly i'll leave you with this important piece of video. There is no cadillac in this debacle but you can avoid being fired.

 Last edit: 30/12/2013 17:08

locoo   Peru. Dec 30 2013 20:11. Posts 4561


  On December 30 2013 16:07 cariadon wrote:
Interesting topic, i'll drop my 2 cents.

This is NOT about time. Giving it a month won't make the issue disappear.
I'll take the girlfriends side on this one. It isn't about the knives, it is about being in a relationship and compromises. The seemingly irrational thoughts and feelings she has are completely justified in my eyes. I repeat, this isn't about the knives and she would agree. If the shitty knives didn't bother you for a long time then probably they aren't that important to begin with. Good knife skills are more important and get you further than picking a really expensive knife you wouldn't be able to appreciate blindfolded.

For me this would be an easy slam dunk yes for your firlgriend but for two reasons this isn't reality.
1. The cat is out of the bag and regardless of what you both (hopefully) decide neither solution won't be perfect.
2. You have crossed the ever so thin line of mother-in-law gray area.

I propose two outcomes.
1. You choose to buy expensive knives and enjoy cooking meals for one under a disapproving, glaring gaze of your girlfriend who is wearing locket jewelry with a little picture of her mother inside it.
2. You do the reasonable thing. (Whatever it is that brings peace back on earth, highly dependant on your table image and dynamics.)

Take it from someone who has been down this path of tablewear arguments with real life experience and do the reasonable thing. You only need like 3 knives to cover 99% of what needs done. I'd recommend getting a comfortable chefs knife so your first meals don't taste too sour and keeping the set given to you.

Sidenote: the set wasn't only given to you but with your girlfriend in mind aswell so she might feel it is a gift to her in some way. Maybe it was her idea in the first place if she noticed you bitching about shitty knives. Meditate on this shit, it is layered like an onion.

Lastly i'll leave you with this important piece of video. There is no cadillac in this debacle but you can avoid being fired.



You raise valid points, but to be fair if it was his gf's idea she should know that dusty the swedish butcher chakuteriaffär likes his knifes 500$ deluxe and not some 40$ set ones. Also she must also understand how terrible it is for our hero to keep using bad knifes and reach a compromise which is to get good ones but don't tell mommy.

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