Out of line? - Page 2

I've always thought $500 for a knife set was absurd. Until I used a $500 knife.

if you have the cupboard space i would order the new knives, and then keep the crappy knives in a cupboard close by, and then when the in-laws come to visit, swap out the knives.

On December 31 2013 00:23 milkman wrote: if you have the cupboard space i would order the new knives, and then keep the crappy knives in a cupboard close by, and then when the in-laws come to visit, swap out the knives.

It may work with the mother-in-law but not the gf. Problem still persists.

I think dismissing their gift and buying new ones is selfish, unless for some reason those knives were really important for you and making your GF feel kinda bad and having to lie to your in laws is secondary.


Anyway dont tell the truth bluntly like a retard, you will hurt their feeling for some misplaced sense of clumsy honesty, anyway if you go and say "I really appreciate the gift but..." its a lie, because you didnt appreciate the gift so you might as well keep it to yourself and spare their feelings.

On December 31 2013 04:43 Baalim wrote: I think dismissing their gift and buying new ones is selfish, unless for some reason those knives were really important for you and making your GF feel kinda bad and having to lie to your in laws is secondary. Anyway dont tell the truth bluntly like a retard, you will hurt their feeling for some misplaced sense of clumsy honesty, anyway if you go and say "I really appreciate the gift but..." its a lie, because you didnt appreciate the gift so you might as well keep it to yourself and spare their feelings.

Appreciating a gesture isn't supposed to be a lie. If he gets the knives he is screwed anyway. lol at thinking that being honest is the bad option here.. I'd much rather tell the truth and get rid of it than having to hide the knives every time her parents visit them. She's coming, hurry hide the knives! for the next two years rofl. Personally, IMHO, buying a set of knives for $500 is stupid (especially considering that he just got new ones from her mother in law), but i'm working with what he wants to do which is getting good knives.

first world problems lol
500$ for a knife set? thefuck
i mean are u a butcher or cook a lot or why would u ever need that kind of equipment, master chefs dont have those

what seems to be the problem?
How hard is it to just use both sets /mix the knives up

damn this is a good morality question.

i understand both your perspectives pretty well. i can't really think of any girlfriend who wouldn't be pissed off. at the same time i too realllly appreciate a great knife set...

at first i was on team dusty, but i think capaneo sold me onto your girlfriends side. relationships are about compromises, and although it may seem a bit trivial to you and good knife sets are awesome - i think you should have taken one for the team to appease her and her mother's feelings.

it's a tough situation.

on a lasting thought, is having two knife sets really an issue? i know some cooking intense people that have multiple knife sets anyways..

On December 30 2013 11:27 locoo wrote: Just get the knives and hide them/use the ones they gifted you whenever your mother in law is around, win/win

Think if I really wanted the knives I'd go with this, or I'd tell the person that using the new knives felt so much better than the old one that you felt compelled to get even better ones.

Something like that.

I do have a problem with being obsessive compulsively honest tho so Im not sure I'd be able to pull it off >_<

On December 31 2013 20:05 nolan wrote: damn this is a good morality question. i understand both your perspectives pretty well. i can't really think of any girlfriend who wouldn't be pissed off. at the same time i too realllly appreciate a great knife set... at first i was on team dusty, but i think capaneo sold me onto your girlfriends side. relationships are about compromises, and although it may seem a bit trivial to you and good knife sets are awesome - i think you should have taken one for the team to appease her and her mother's feelings. it's a tough situation. on a lasting thought, is having two knife sets really an issue? i know some cooking intense people that have multiple knife sets anyways..

capaneo hasn't posted in this thread and i despise the misunderstanding

The conflict lie in how much Dusty really uses knives. He said he had had the old ones for a long time and just recently noticed they were shit. This is a tell of inexperience. If he had been using knives on a daily basis or enough to know the ones he had were shit then it is unfathomable the hero would voluntarily and knowingly use shitty knives for an extended period of time. Get yourself a good steel and learn proper technique.

My gf thought you should just get the knives you want and your gf can use the ones her mother got as a christmas present. Handy to have a bunch of knivs when cooking together. Hiding the good ones and pretending to really enjoy the 30-40 set was ridiculed to put it mildly.

You need a good sharpening stone to keep your knives in good shape. You prob find small investment in this will possibly bring your old knives back to sharpness. Whole world of knife sharpening out there, but a medium stone is prob the best for all round. I personally have an Arkansas sharpening stone and you use a special lubrication oil on the stone. Works very well

On December 31 2013 06:32 dnagardi wrote: first world problems lol 500$ for a knife set? thefuck i mean are u a butcher or cook a lot or why would u ever need that kind of equipment, master chefs dont have those

Good knives are a pleasure to prepare/cut food with and hold a good edge longer. Afaik chefs bring their own good knives when they cook.

Personally I'd have waited in some circumstances as I think it's pretty rude to your relatives but x1000 when its a close relative you probably see often or invite over like your mother-in-law. If i was going to go ahead and buy them anyway I'd try to return the knives first if possible and say I want to buy a better set as I've been meaning to buy good knives for a while. Can't really go wrong there. I'd also have spoken to my gf/wife before doing it to reduce any negative impact and talk it through.

Another option would have been to keep her knife set and purchase just 1-2 main solid chef knives and sharpen the hell out of other set so it's ready for other purposes. You will get much more enjoyment and quality from having 1-2 single main knives worth $500 than a whole set imo.

Most gifts like this (ones that you might use every day) come with gift receipts in case you don't like the gift. Kind of thoughtless by them not to give it with one. I think that explaining to your wife that you wanted the expensive knives and that their ~$40 donation to that cause will help get you there should be enough to quell any spousal tension.

Another option would be to keep the block that the knives came in and sub out for the expensive knives if they're all the standard sizes. Doubt they will ever notice.

Every relationship is different, and negotiations/compromises are common in my house. If it was important to me I would ask her to think of something she has that she would like to upgrade and both buy your upgrades together if they're similar in price/importance. Will be a good excuse for the in-laws as well as you each wanted to upgrade something you now own.

ps: you could go as far as telling them that their gift really piqued your interest in knives and cooking and led you down the road to purchasing a set that will last a lifetime, etc. They can't really be annoyed if they think their gift had a big impact but was replaced.

Let your gf do a whole kitchen work and get yourself a 1000$ gun instead