Poker Goals

with respect to the fact you think everyone else posting is stupid, you could be stupid also

you say "goals" but what's missing from the explanation is your motives. you say it's not really financial independence because job is better. okay noted.

I disagree with AndrewSong in that there are many games and similar things that can engage your competitive masculinity and it differs from person to person which one you can get the most out of. poker could be fine but it may not be the best thing for hiems. maybe hiems's true calling is billiards. this is not to discourage from poker, but sometimes we don't consider what's out there, outside our boxes.

like if you translate these goals to something else
-play 30 games of BW a month
-focus more on 2v2 tournaments
-get better with dodging smurfs
-analyze my replays and build orders

these "goals" i mean they just sound... self-evident, i want to play more and get better. yeah no shit. but you don't know necessarily what direction that could be. like why would you organize them as goals in this way for any game that's not about money, yet in the game that's played for money, that you say isn't really about money, but you have these goals, so i don't see what the motive is. like, i want to play higher stakes without losing because that's a thrill? i want to get good at multitabling zoom because that's where the flow is? i want to win a MTT at this buy-in because then i will have accomplished something? like of all the dimensions which one is your motive for these goals. just have a competitive fun hobby that also trickles in money rather than being a spending hobby, like lamp collecting for example. if you've asked yourself this and understand then okay but defensive as fuck blog as usual

On February 13 2020 20:52 LemOn[5thF] wrote: Is the time the main issue for you ? Or simply the energy when looking for new friends after interacting with people all day at work ? The "much more set" part - is that about yourself as well and how you feel about people ? Btw how does your city you live in look like? Prague has hipster cafes and even huge spaces like old barracks with workshops then meetup groups, expat communities, hikers, societies, event goers, alcoholics etc. Maybe I'm spoiled but you can go and meet people with a theme any day of the week pretty much, and you can meet the same ones regularly. And there are even people in their 60s doing this and making new friend. Like me haha :D My oldest reasonably good friend I hangout with a few times per month is 67 And it's getting easier and easier now, a big focus is building psychological flexibility for me, it's vital in poker but awesome in being open to making friends that are nothing like you

I don't drink anymore so it's doubly difficult but also in some ways easier because I have Alcoholics Anonymous. In college I lived in a suite with 10 men with a suite next door of 10 women with a suite next door of 10 men with a suite next door of 10 women, etc. in a tower of 28 floors of that situation. Drinking was lax in the dorms. ID'ing was lax in bars. There was a plethora of house parties at any given time. I remember playing missionred.com to increase my APM so I could own noobs at WarCraft 3 and this smart, quirky, attractive Indian (red dot... she didn't really have a red dot I just feel like being funny or racist or both) tells me I need to come out that night with our group of friends and her group of friends. Shit like that happened all the time. I'm actively trying not to be social but I am getting asked out to do stuff all the time.

28 is harder but hopefully the person has built up some skills. Women expect more.

If a woman is 35 and doesn't have kids and wants kids she's not going to fuck around.

Ok, I mean I don't want to go too in depth here because I and Drone have already laid it mostly out for you. There is the aspect of it being harder to acquire social skills the older one gets. University you can mess up a lot and it doesn't really matter. In AA one can mess up a lot and it doesn't really matter. But at 35 one doesn't want to alienate the social group one desires. People at 35 just aren't doing as much, have less tolerance for bull shit, etc.

I didn't really answer your questions:

Time is not a big issue but remember in college I had classes like a few hours a day and didn't study much so that's a lot of free time and I'm surrounded by people in a similar boat.

I still have plenty of energy. Socializing most days energizes me so it's not an issue.

I am not similar to drone in that I don't feel like I'm all set. I am actively trying to make new friends and connections. But I would say most people who are 35 are more inline with that "all set" mindset and aren't necessarily looking to put themselves out there to meet new people.

My city isn't bad. Doesn't sound as nice as your city but it's not horrible.

On February 15 2020 18:12 Santafairy wrote: with respect to the fact you think everyone else posting is stupid, you could be stupid also you say "goals" but what's missing from the explanation is your motives. you say it's not really financial independence because job is better. okay noted. I disagree with AndrewSong in that there are many games and similar things that can engage your competitive masculinity and it differs from person to person which one you can get the most out of. poker could be fine but it may not be the best thing for hiems. maybe hiems's true calling is billiards. this is not to discourage from poker, but sometimes we don't consider what's out there, outside our boxes. like if you translate these goals to something else -play 30 games of BW a month -focus more on 2v2 tournaments -get better with dodging smurfs -analyze my replays and build orders these "goals" i mean they just sound... self-evident, i want to play more and get better. yeah no shit. but you don't know necessarily what direction that could be. like why would you organize them as goals in this way for any game that's not about money, yet in the game that's played for money, that you say isn't really about money, but you have these goals, so i don't see what the motive is. like, i want to play higher stakes without losing because that's a thrill? i want to get good at multitabling zoom because that's where the flow is? i want to win a MTT at this buy-in because then i will have accomplished something? like of all the dimensions which one is your motive for these goals. just have a competitive fun hobby that also trickles in money rather than being a spending hobby, like lamp collecting for example. if you've asked yourself this and understand then okay but defensive as fuck blog as usual

ty for your advice gayfairy.

On February 15 2020 19:42 RiKD wrote: Show nested quote + On February 13 2020 20:52 LemOn[5thF] wrote: Is the time the main issue for you ? Or simply the energy when looking for new friends after interacting with people all day at work ? The "much more set" part - is that about yourself as well and how you feel about people ? Btw how does your city you live in look like? Prague has hipster cafes and even huge spaces like old barracks with workshops then meetup groups, expat communities, hikers, societies, event goers, alcoholics etc. Maybe I'm spoiled but you can go and meet people with a theme any day of the week pretty much, and you can meet the same ones regularly. And there are even people in their 60s doing this and making new friend. Like me haha :D My oldest reasonably good friend I hangout with a few times per month is 67 And it's getting easier and easier now, a big focus is building psychological flexibility for me, it's vital in poker but awesome in being open to making friends that are nothing like you I don't drink anymore so it's doubly difficult but also in some ways easier because I have Alcoholics Anonymous. In college I lived in a suite with 10 men with a suite next door of 10 women with a suite next door of 10 men with a suite next door of 10 women, etc. in a tower of 28 floors of that situation. Drinking was lax in the dorms. ID'ing was lax in bars. There was a plethora of house parties at any given time. I remember playing missionred.com to increase my APM so I could own noobs at WarCraft 3 and this smart, quirky, attractive Indian (red dot... she didn't really have a red dot I just feel like being funny or racist or both) tells me I need to come out that night with our group of friends and her group of friends. Shit like that happened all the time. I'm actively trying not to be social but I am getting asked out to do stuff all the time. 28 is harder but hopefully the person has built up some skills. Women expect more. If a woman is 35 and doesn't have kids and wants kids she's not going to fuck around. Ok, I mean I don't want to go too in depth here because I and Drone have already laid it mostly out for you. There is the aspect of it being harder to acquire social skills the older one gets. University you can mess up a lot and it doesn't really matter. In AA one can mess up a lot and it doesn't really matter. But at 35 one doesn't want to alienate the social group one desires. People at 35 just aren't doing as much, have less tolerance for bull shit, etc. I didn't really answer your questions: Time is not a big issue but remember in college I had classes like a few hours a day and didn't study much so that's a lot of free time and I'm surrounded by people in a similar boat. I still have plenty of energy. Socializing most days energizes me so it's not an issue. I am not similar to drone in that I don't feel like I'm all set. I am actively trying to make new friends and connections. But I would say most people who are 35 are more inline with that "all set" mindset and aren't necessarily looking to put themselves out there to meet new people. My city isn't bad. Doesn't sound as nice as your city but it's not horrible.

Sounds like the only difference is that you have to put in an active effort rather than be passive?

I guess you've been an alcoholic, but weak willpower aside what'd stop you from hanging out with people that drink and just don't drink alcohol?

What does being a woman at 28/35 have to do with making friends - I don't really see the problem. Just check any wine bar in the evenings and you'll see they find the time lol

I'm just saying college is constantly social. Everyone is in class like 15 hours a week if that and even the students who had to study a lot were typically organized and studious about it. "Hey, let's grab some food," "Hey, let's grab a picnic table down at Catfish Biff's," "Hey, the girls next door have some alcohol let's go over there."

In order to just have some non-alcoholic acquaintances these days I had to happen upon a Mexie vid where she mentions Food Not Bombs, find out the info on FNB, strike up the courage to go down there, and now I have to go consistently.

It's not about having been an alcoholic. I have alcoholism. It's not about willpower. I am different in mind and body. It's a disease. I am allergic. But nothing is stopping me from hanging out with people that drink and I don't drink. I do this on occasion. I'm not going to belly up to the bar by myself and order a club soda and cranberry juice though. I have to have a reason to be there. The other night I was hungry after work and didn't want to eat another PB&J so went to the only bar that still served food. I bellied up to the bar to have a sweet tea and a sandwich and the women next to me was sloppy drunk and the other guy next to me was taking all sorts of shots and it really wasn't much of a pleasurable experience. The bartender was nice but busy and the food was good but I haven't been back.

See that is the thing. I used to love wine bars. I would go by myself and found them more quiet and chill. I met some really interesting people in wine bars but again, today, I am not going to stroll into a wine bar by myself and sit there with a sparkling water and lime if they even have limes. And we were talking about making friends and dating. 35 yr old women will go to wine bars and complain about how guys don't have their shit together and I really can't blame them. No woman is going to want to have a baby with me at the moment so why would they even date me unless they also want to not be lonely, maybe laugh, have conversation, maybe some organic orgasms if I play my cards right and also they play their cards right. But I can't really provide the fun and excitement that the 20 somethings want and I can't provide the male provider that many 30 somethings want so it seems like I have to settle with desperate chubby women, single moms, and cougars. I quite like big women. "If models were made for modeling, big girls were made for cuddling" - Andre 3000.

lol what is this shit where's your shawl cardigan

I was talking about making friends

Dating women in their 30s is a different thing from making friends
They have so much pressure on them as every year that passes there's increased risk of pregnancy complications, fertility goes down. And even if you are comfortable in your skin and kids are not important to you...you know you can't change your mind later, and as woke as society is and when we obviously don't need high fertility now there's still loads of peer pressure on women...

Obviously they are a lot more likely to be more straightforward an no-nonsense picky when it comes to partners, doesn't really apply much to friends though

I agree by the way with the notion that monogamous dating is pretty much pointless unless you plan on having kids, but pretty sure a lot of people would disagree with you there.But on the other hand when it comes to dating nobody is forcing you to date women in their mid-late 30s in the first place when you're that age?

On February 16 2020 18:23 Santafairy wrote: lol what is this shit where's your shawl cardigan

I gave it to goodwill.

On February 16 2020 18:53 LemOn[5thF] wrote: I was talking about making friends Dating women in their 30s is a different thing from making friends They have so much pressure on them as every year that passes there's increased risk of pregnancy complications, fertility goes down. And even if you are comfortable in your skin and kids are not important to you...you know you can't change your mind later, and as woke as society is and when we obviously don't need high fertility now there's still loads of peer pressure on women... Obviously they are a lot more likely to be more straightforward an no-nonsense picky when it comes to partners, doesn't really apply much to friends though I agree by the way with the notion that monogamous dating is pretty much pointless unless you plan on having kids, but pretty sure a lot of people would disagree with you there.But on the other hand when it comes to dating nobody is forcing you to date women in their mid-late 30s in the first place when you're that age?

I already said I'm not fun and exciting enough for 20 somethings (or rich enough).

I also never said that monogamous dating is pointless unless you plan on having kids. To each his own but I prefer dating lots of women until I find one to be in a monogamous relationship with whether I have kids or not. I am not really interested in any other arrangement.

If we are just talking about friends it's not impossible to make friends at 35+ Drone and myself just posit that it is more difficult. If you are finding it easy at 35 that is great. It's certainly possible. I am doing it too. So, maybe we should focus on that aspect of it but the key here is that hiems keeps putting it off and putting it off. Even if he's comfortable in his own skin as he says that doesn't mean he's actually comfortable in social situations and he could just like ease his way into socialization whenever he wants and that's not going to get any easier is my point.

Go down to 25nl and put in 3500+ hands per day rather than baby volume on higher stakes. Then move up to 50nl and 100nl when u are more comfortable with the swings at those stakes after building a bigger roll for it @ 25nl. This way you will also become a lot better poker player because of high volume. So when u do move up to 50nl and 100nl the difference is probably not as big from 25nl as u think. And u are more prepared for it on several levels.

hiems has a full time job. How in the hell is he going to play 3500+ hands per day?

On February 18 2020 12:10 VanDerMeyde wrote: Go down to 25nl and put in 3500+ hands per day rather than baby volume on higher stakes. Then move up to 50nl and 100nl when u are more comfortable with the swings at those stakes after building a bigger roll for it @ 25nl. This way you will also become a lot better poker player because of high volume. So when u do move up to 50nl and 100nl the difference is probably not as big from 25nl as u think. And u are more prepared for it on several levels.

Hm yeah you might be right. Thanks that is helpful advice. I have actually been playing more of 30nl since my blog post (We have that instead of 25nl) because traffic is such that even 50nl sometimes is hard to get when the traffic is low. The 8k hands was planned for 50nl/100nl which I am sure is softer than Stars but your definitely right in that its still baby volume perhaps I was underestimating exactly how many hands a month it is that you need to actually get better even if I had it in the back of my mind that I would work up towards more hands. I do have a full time job which it would be mostly fine but the way my schedule works there are going to be days off here and there and I think those days off do hurt my flow a decent amount. I might be able to change this in the future tho and there are some ways I can work around this problem.

Some additional notes

-I usually have been playing 3-4 tables before but this last session I had 6 tables of 30nl and it is super soft and the additional tables made it alot easier to achieve volume targets.
-Currently on 27 inch monitor which is the largest monitor I have ever had but kinda wish I had thought more about it and am wondering if 32inch+ or ultrawides are worth it. It seems difficult to play more than 6 tables on this setup maybe I'm doing something wrong..
-As mentioned I still want to play @ 200nl/500nl against this particular whale who pretty much is hunted by everyone on the site.

you've found the guy laliberte of 200nl on a random site

Guy wasn't actually that bad he was just playing with the very best. I would wager in 2009 Guy could beat 200 PLO if there was someway for a billionaire to care about 200 PLO.

On February 18 2020 12:10 VanDerMeyde wrote: Go down to 25nl and put in 3500+ hands per day rather than baby volume on higher stakes. Then move up to 50nl and 100nl when u are more comfortable with the swings at those stakes after building a bigger roll for it @ 25nl. This way you will also become a lot better poker player because of high volume. So when u do move up to 50nl and 100nl the difference is probably not as big from 25nl as u think. And u are more prepared for it on several levels.

+1

On February 12 2020 23:04 Sleepy311 wrote: NJ Online is a pretty rough grind man... It's mainly just regs going at it from NL50 and up waiting for stragglers... Why not just play at the Borgata or something where the games are good (And you can socialize with people)

Lol what a pussy

On February 11 2020 21:13 dnagardi wrote: ditch poker, it's for your own good. put in the same effort you just wrote into socialization. You will be a happier person. Poker will never give you what your heart desires.

Good old vagina dnagardi

On February 11 2020 23:09 RiKD wrote: Seems reasonable. I am not sure if I understand the endgame though. Is this a hobby? Fun? Are you trying to make it big? What if you play like 50k hands as a .1 ptbb/100 winner and make $100 then what? Just continue the plan? Would that be fun for you? We don't know much about you is true. Are you some Big Brained Scrabble Champion like Deldar? I remember when he was rising through the ranks and I was like who is this guy then I was like this guy isn't bad then he kept rocketshipping upwards. The funny thing is I don't know if that guy could even beat 500 NL these days. I'm sure he could if he put his mind towards it but I'm saying just jump right in there with 2009 skills he might get crushed. Also, I don't understand why/how you don't really have time for socialization at the moment? If poker is genuinely more fun than socialization than that is one thing. I think most people would like if not require some human connection. Maybe you get enough at work. Maybe not. I don't know. I think in conclusion at least I wouldn't value a pipe dream of being a big timer over socialization. All great players kind of valued a "pipe dream" over socialization. It's interesting to see or think about how it has paid off or not paid off for different people.

This idiot can't even beat 10nl lol

On February 12 2020 03:57 Loco wrote: Show nested quote + On February 12 2020 03:40 hiems wrote: This site is god awful. Indeed. All of the liberals came out of the woodwork in order to attack you for no reason. They clearly all think they're better and wiser than you by trying to give you unwarranted advice. Unreal how arrogant these inferior beings are.

Loco!!

On February 12 2020 20:23 dnagardi wrote: lol man, most ppl on this site is probably 30+ giving you real positive advice with experience we actually experienced due to poker. I had good intentions and I truly believe in what I wrote works in general. You are looking at these from the wrong angle, we are not trying to attack you. if you put poker in front of socialization it will be destructive for you in the long run. No matter how much money you win. It puts you in a dark lonely corner without you even noticing it. anyway this is just my oppinion, i might be wrong

Didn't say it at the time but I'm older than this retard lol.