perfect anger control

I doubt day to day stuff would work. Things like age couple years, new job, win lotto will work but normal day to day stuff? I dont think so based on you said you were extremely angry.

just remember that pretty much nothing in life actually matters, X time from now this thing that is making you angry now won't anymore, and it's because it never mattered anyway

yeh, that's pretty much the same logical steps i try and go through, but is there a way to condition yourself, to minimize if not delete that initial anger response?

is there a way to skip it all together?

If you've ever played Heroes of Newerth with FrinkX, this is what he would have done 100%.

there's also always the "could be worse" line

for me I think it was poker that completely removing my emotions towards money variance made it translate to life variance aswell

On April 05 2013 23:33 player999 wrote: there's also always the "could be worse" line for me I think it was poker that completely removing my emotions towards money variance made it translate to life variance aswell

lol if you see my first post I'm skeptical of somehow training yourself to not be angry but seeing some of your graphs I can legit believe some people are pretty insane at doing something like that. crazy!

its not so much training as it is getting used to it

and you get used to it in poker (well I guess by putting yourself into this position, you are indeed training), and then it translates to other aspects of your life

I pretty much never get mad @ life stuff, like crashing my car, ripping my leg's ligaments, or anything, in the end if you think about it is never a big deal and it could always be worse

On April 05 2013 23:32 TheHuHu3 wrote: If you've ever played Heroes of Newerth with FrinkX, this is what he would have done 100%.

hi huhu

On April 05 2013 23:32 TheHuHu3 wrote: If you've ever played Heroes of Newerth with FrinkX, this is what he would have done 100%.

i was lucky to play with him once

played against him a few times though

Quit that shit cuz it's like a drug, problem solved.

On April 05 2013 22:20 mnj wrote: how do you conquer emotions???

Don't! I think experienced poker players become conditioned in their thinking to disallow emotional reactions to situations, as it is a hugely necessary and difficult skill in poker, and that then leaks in to one's approach to the rest of life as it becomes habituated; as if life should be analysed in terms of cold logical EV. Sure, your anger is a problem when it is out of control, but it is quite natural to get angry when you get screwed over. Let it out imo.

On April 06 2013 00:07 player999 wrote: its not so much training as it is getting used to it and you get used to it in poker (well I guess by putting yourself into this position, you are indeed training), and then it translates to other aspects of your life I pretty much never get mad @ life stuff, like crashing my car, ripping my leg's ligaments, or anything, in the end if you think about it is never a big deal and it could always be worse

My post above is opposing exactly this. For me I don't want to be this cold about life. Not having a go at you player999, I know nothing about you, you may just be a chilled guy, whatever, I don't intend to do the popular internet psychological diagnosis from a few lines of text thing, but many people in poker aim for what you have described above as a sanitized disengagement, which I think is a shame.

On April 06 2013 06:44 Oly wrote: but it is quite natural to get angry when you get screwed over. Let it out imo.

It's natural but it isn't the most healthy and optimal reaction to these situations. There are better responses than anger.

Of course, it's a question of balance.

stop caring

anger is a gift
embrace it

the reason why anger is a poor emotion is it ties into high blood pressure. Feel that seething rage, pulsing through your body. That is not something you want to feel all the time and having a way to reduce or deflect is more optimal. Mostly since it is a state almost always brought on mentally it can be controlled through mental preparedness. I have no idea how you think about things or whatever, but what player999 said is a mental projection of 1 form of reality. Sometimes saying fuck it, won't matter helps, other times that causes it to get worse because who cares what happens now "go crazy". Another, is mental awareness. Being aware this is a physiological state brought on from you. So, because of that meditation actually helps. You can do active meditation. Should help.

Another thing is, if you have poor sleep quality/schedules, poor diet, poor fitness, dehydation Those can all throw your body out of balance, making less optimal reactions to stimuli

you play poker right? just bluff and be like bro almost done 5 more mins
if nothing else he wont jack your first courier

I dont play this game so I dont know what is allowed (i play real wc3 RTS not the custom game spinoffs so if anyone wants to play some wc3 HU let me know, pretty sure im the best player in north america at this point.) but what you need to do is start playing for the other team instantly. If possible the best thing to do would be to instantly start TKing him. Block him. Give your items to the enemy. Start killing your own main and ALt tab. Show him you have other shit to do but you will happily waste his time. ruin the game, lol at him, then bounce.

On April 06 2013 00:34 TalentedTom wrote: Show nested quote + On April 05 2013 23:32 TheHuHu3 wrote: If you've ever played Heroes of Newerth with FrinkX, this is what he would have done 100%. hi huhu

hi tawm

it's terrible to queue alone for pub games... it can be really frustrating
am barely playing dota now cause I always end up in retardedly bad teams.

Nerdrage is tough to contain if dota is something you do hours and hours daily.

On April 06 2013 15:26 traxamillion wrote: I dont play this game so I dont know what is allowed (i play real wc3 RTS not the custom game spinoffs so if anyone wants to play some wc3 HU let me know, pretty sure im the best player in north america at this point.) but what you need to do is start playing for the other team instantly. If possible the best thing to do would be to instantly start TKing him. Block him. Give your items to the enemy. Start killing your own main and ALt tab. Show him you have other shit to do but you will happily waste his time. ruin the game, lol at him, then bounce.

you are pure evil

can't do these things in dota 2 thou
and if you afk or disconnect you can get banned or moved to the low priority queue, which is terrible

You can steer your reaction from anger towards sadness by understanding how utterly helpless you are to do anything about it. Anger always carries the implication that you can do something about it, or that somehow other people will start respecting you because you are angry. Online, in a video game, queued with a random, this never works. Look at your helplessness, accept it, and feel your emotional response shift to sadness.

Once sad instead of angry, you can fix it by loosening up and enjoying yourself more.