What do I want?

You smell some pussy lol you are a fucking maniac my friend

Buy Tinder+
why waste your time with limited matches
Once your profile is good enough you won't need it in the first place

Also maybe less drugs would be nice you sound shitfaced

I guess it is always a good idea to have an influx of matches and dates. I never want to fixate on one girl (unless we are boyfriend and girlfriend). Unless I go on a photo shoot it takes time to develop a rockin’ profile. I was never a guy to get my photo taken and most of the time recently there has not been a lot of excitement and adventure which tinder is sort of all about. I’m looking to remedy this. The goal would be a bunch of matches and say 2 dates a week.

Also, I was perhaps shitfaced off of Carmine Burana and ballet. I don’t drink or do drugs. I deal with anxiety and bipolar and maybe I am a bit on the manic side. I typically write pretty manic anyways.

if you have a subscription to going outside you can talk to limitless matches for free

haha, oh, here we go.

I think you need a pretty good read on the kind of eye contact you are getting to even begin to think about approaching random women outside. It depends so much on the context. Bars and clubs where they are wearing makeup and dressed up to look sexy is one thing. A women looking like she is in a rush at Whole Foods is another matter all together.

I don't drink or do drugs so I don't go to bars and clubs anymore. I am actually curious to what some of your suggestions would be?

If your thoughts were creating the apparent reality then your posts would be a pretty good indicator of what kind of reality you're creating for yourself.

If you have a HD phone/camera you can take a video and then pick the best frame
and download Pixlr, it's a very basic photo editor.

And you don't have to drink to go to bars heh
I used to do this exercise where I'd just go to a club at like 11pm (the club with bars also where you can talk to people) and just approach 10 people and then go home, have it as practice, if you get numbers, also great.

And try meetup.com for various groups and go to a bunch of random stuff
TBH I still do that and I've had a girlfriend for years

Did you get your girlfriend from tinder?

I think I will pass on that exercise. I am not saying it is a bad exercise I just need a better reason to be in bars and clubs.

I think I am one good headshot and some decent shots in some nice outfits away from a really nice profile. It is so hard to just get that done though. I heard that there is like an internal desirability score depending on who is swiping right or left and it matters to which profiles you see. I need to get that desirability score up and just have a more attractive profile in general. It wastes time not getting matches I am attracted to.

So, I asked this girl out to ice cream in the afternoon (we were talking about it earlier in the convo). She says she works and is free in the evening. There is this bomb ass thai place across the street from the ice cream place. I don't know if I want to just go straight into dinner on a first date though. I was thinking more have some ice cream and walk around the city.

On April 22 2018 21:08 RiKD wrote: So, I asked this girl out to ice cream in the afternoon (we were talking about it earlier in the convo). She says she works and is free in the evening. There is this bomb ass thai place across the street from the ice cream place. I don't know if I want to just go straight into dinner on a first date though. I was thinking more have some ice cream and walk around the city.

My opinion about diner on a first date is:

1: If you don't pay, you will seem cheap to a lot of girls
2: If you do pay, you end up spending a lot of money for something that often leads nowhere (in my case thats 70%+)
3: Its hard to initiate kino in this setting (totally possible, i once started kissing a lot with a girl on first diner date, but that happened once).

I think ice cream is a better idea.

First date always easy escape plan from online
so you are both comfortable
ice cream sounds good
and you can have backup plans for different places if things do go well

And no I got my GF at a party with poker guys Marshall28 from here took me to haha
But I did go on a bunch of online dates too

On April 23 2018 04:07 Floofy wrote: Show nested quote + On April 22 2018 21:08 RiKD wrote: So, I asked this girl out to ice cream in the afternoon (we were talking about it earlier in the convo). She says she works and is free in the evening. There is this bomb ass thai place across the street from the ice cream place. I don't know if I want to just go straight into dinner on a first date though. I was thinking more have some ice cream and walk around the city. My opinion about diner on a first date is: 1: If you don't pay, you will seem cheap to a lot of girls 2: If you do pay, you end up spending a lot of money for something that often leads nowhere (in my case thats 70%+) 3: Its hard to initiate kino in this setting (totally possible, i once started kissing a lot with a girl on first diner date, but that happened once). I think ice cream is a better idea.

If you don't pay you are cheap.

It was nice when I could go out for a $100 meal and not even care or notice. The Thai place would probably end up being about $70 which I really want to be able to say what's the difference but that's not the case for me at the moment. I think that is a part to this whole thing. How do I get back to a place where $100 meals don't matter but my soul is not suffering for it? I think we have discussed this before but in my opinion the perfect first date is at a cool, sexy lounge. I no longer have the money for that and I don't drink. I was talking to this one girl about drinks and was just honest and said I'll have a san pelligrino or a cappucino and I didn't know anything about where to get a drink in this city and she was like "lol, we don't have to get drinks." I have always found it works a lot better to just say a place and a time. Let's go to (coffee place) at 2pm on Sunday. I think that is what the woman wants. I just figured it would be an experiment on going out for drinks. I really wouldn't mind having a san pelligrino or a cappucino but maybe she would.

You and your kino. I have had dates where I initiated zero kino (unless eye contact is considered kino) until I got her home and pushed her up against the door and kissed her. I don't think it's that big of a deal. Kissing in public is not a great look. That's not my goal. My goal is to fuck her in my bed or her bed or on the counter or the couch, etc.

I think ice cream is the better idea as well. I asked her to dinner then ice cream then revised and said "or, we can get some ice cream and go for a bit of a walk?" It feels kind of weak to re-ask like that but I think it makes her more comfortable. My goal is not actually to go to dinner I just thought it was kind of a cool idea. I really want to just get the ice cream and go for a walk so I need to stick to my guns and ask for what I want.

I don't care if it makes me "cheap", if i paid 100$ for every first dates i'd be broke as fuck lol
I rather keep my money for girls i actually have sex with.

grow some balls and more important f***ing grow up.. you sound like a 12-year-old crying for attention from girls

your blog seriously tilts me. You seem very materialistic (or used to be?) and narcissistic. It also tilts me that you float the idea of Buddhism but then go back to talk about expensive dinners and chasing girls. It's like you never take a serious stance on anything, and are basically uninterested in engaging with reality

On April 24 2018 10:29 Stroggoz wrote: your blog seriously tilts me. You seem very materialistic (or used to be?) and narcissistic. It also tilts me that you float the idea of Buddhism but then go back to talk about expensive dinners and chasing girls. It's like you never take a serious stance on anything, and are basically uninterested in engaging with reality

He is an addict and mentally ill (bipolar/psychotic). It's not from a lack of interest. It's how he is. It's an incapacity. The thing is, blaming people for how they're "wired" in a vacuum like this is no good. Mental illness, materialism, narcissism, they all have systemic roots. This is what you expect this system to generate, being degenerate itself, it produces degenerates. This forum is full of degenerates of all sorts, RiKD only stands out because he is addicted to being public about his struggles and obsessions. Poker itself is a degenerative game, it's purely exploitative.

It only tilts you because you're being too self-centered yourself, not taking the time to reflect about how it is possible for someone to become this way. It's not causa sui, at no point did RiKD sign up to become an addict or Mortensen a delusional conspiracy theorist. It's much more an indictment of the neoliberal economic machine and the reductionist paradigm that produces such deficient, confused and unbalanced people than it is anything like the lack of individual awareness and willpower to make things better.

i agree that the neoliberal system is a great contributer in producing these types of people and a variety of mentally/physically ill people in general. Not sure why you'd think I don't agree with you on that point.