serious rl issues =/

no I think you're really reasonable, though I'd try to get out of the lease cuz that situation is bullshit and he was stealing from you. I don't know anything about breaking leases etc but get it done if you can because that's bullshit

I am at my parents but my sister is a huge toolbag and all of the stress from the bullshit effects my mood and attitude and thus I perform worse in all things.

sounds reasonable, and if u play poker for a living, u might wait until u play higher than NL100 before you actually have to pay a rent

i know fayth>< i guess i underestimated life stresses, so here i am back home, but that was why i tried to put alot of safety mechanisms in place, i had supernova, i have basically been earning more in fpp's than my monthly expenses so i figured it would be good enough, plus having a 100bi roll, but i guess it wasnt enough.

i agree with fayth about waiting until higher than 100nl. and yea id try to get out of the situation.

I feel you :S:S:S

I am soon to be moving into a 3bedroom apartment with 2other real life friends, Id hate my life in a new house to turn out like you because I need my own free time to play poker well. Though you SHOULDN'T be the one who has to move out because of this :S Tell your friend to calm the fuck down or move out? Sure you can find some1 else to be house mates with.....

Hope you can sort stuff out.

I think it'd be best to talk to your landlord and seeing if you can sign the lease over to another person.

tell your roommate to look for another person to fill your spot on the lease imo.

seems like a real douche though :


hope things turn out

The thing with cigarettes and alcohol for me usually is its okay to take whats in the house if its not locked up as long as it actually does even out in the end.
If it doesnt the other guy can fuck off.
Unfortunately in most cases it doesnt even out ...

I remeber one time when i was into drugs ( not anymore) i had a friend with whom i shared dope for the most part for like 1 year
Sometimes he had more than he needed to sell some to me , sometimes i had enough to sell some to him and we didnt really care too much and never were to accurate.
We both had the idea that it will end out even in the long run and so we can borrow weed from each other as friends whenever someone had a good amount

So basically one called the other and said liek : Hey , i need something to smoke
Other guy : No problem , lets met in 30 minutes
We met and did some rough estimation of amount/worth by eye and had a deal. We never cared for a long time if it was 3,5g or 3,8g or maybe 4g when we payed our standart prize. One day i had the impression that it really was a little too small what i got for the prize i payed. I mentioned it and he said -> well yes , but next time it will be bigger and so it evens out again. I weight it at home and realizied it was 1g below for what we agreed for our standart prize >_<.
few weeks later i had some and he needed some and called me. We met and instead of our standart prize that we always traded he had 2 euros less in his pocket.
I said fuck u and never made a deal with him again in my life.

He was really freaking out like .. we have been friends and i overreact and he is so dissapointed about me being an ass for 2 euros ....

But its the principle
the one momment where the mutual agreement of letting it even out is violated by one person in a way that makes u sure u cant trust teh person anymore
Person can fuck himself.

Thats probably easily the case with your rommate.
Why should u even consider making an effort to get along with that person if he behaves like a fucktard all day ? Even if he was your former friend

I'd react much more harshly than you are if put into this situation for sure

I am not a trained "psychologist" nor am I licensed to do any form of psychiatric counseling, however don't write me off too quickly -- I am a trained cultural anthropologist!

In anthropology, context is everything. Within context, culture is looked at in primacy. For me, it seems that you are currently tied to a situation that is not desirable for a number of reasons.

1) the conflict of the party culture of your roommate, as opposed to your relatively more "tame" lifestyle.
2) the conflict between your focus and the party setting.
3) the concern about the liability of having "others" in your environment (ie concern for belongings, housing damage, etc.)

then there are the more subtle aspects of your situation which include (but are not limited to)

1) the peripheral concern for your roommates health and lifestyle
2) the socially awkward stigma of playing a "game" of poker while the others in attendance tell you to just deal with it (this carries subtle tones of your roommate and guests giving priority to what is assumed to be the most "social" or "normalized" interaction over the "hobby" of poker)
3) the desire and nostalgia for "home" (this is complicated, but the home in this situation is at the very least epitomizes desired poker environment)

what you seem to be asking for is some feedback on your priorities. You want to know if poker takes too much precedence in your life, and if you are wrong in doing so.

The simple answer for me is that you are not surrounded by like-minded people. This naturally creates a sense of alienation for you, and you cannot help but wonder if you are objectively wrong about your life perspective. If your concerns are so great as to make a blog about it for other "like-minded" people to see (assuming you selectively asked the poker community to assess your situation with sensitivity to the fact that poker is in fact important in ones life), then you are not simply compromising your lifestyle, but you are in fact jeopardizing your lifestyle. The distinction is that there doesn't seem to be any respect for what you do in your away from home setting, whereas the home is not necessarily 180 degrees different, but it is instead a setting where there is simply no confrontation. You need to find a new location, where your lifestyle will be respected either in coexistence or in synergy. Coexistence allows you to continue on as you have, mimicking what you have experienced at home. Whereas a situation with synergy (ideally a roommate that also thinks highly of poker) may amplify your enjoyment of the former situation.

This is a really simple and face value assessment. However, I confide that your situation could be improved. I don't know how serious you are about poker, or how central it is in your life, but it in the very least seems to be very important to you. I would urge you to seek out a situation where you are able to put more roots in the ground. You need supportive and respectful people around you, you need a situation outside of your home to provide you with the autonomy of adulthood, and you need to be around people that you at least enjoy. If you only find solace in your poker playing, then you risk becoming dangerously dependent upon a variable. You need support to help you find equilibrium, otherwise your entire life situation will fluctuate with your poker highs and lows.

Hope this helps

i was thinkin about moving to canada in 5 years, so if you ll be lookin for roommate 5 yrs from now msg me :D

lol modus cracking me up with all of this analysis