Update on GF situation

So I got a dilemma.

I quit my job about 2 weeks ago due to various reasons, and in Malmö its kind of hard to get a job here (i will not work at mcdonalds). If I nit up I can manage the summer with some I got saved up. On the other hand, my dad has gotten me an interview in stockholm next week, which sucks because a.) I have my girlfriend in malmö, and she gets really upset about the thought of me moving to Stockholm. B.) I moved from Stockholm to Malmö to be with my friends, and c.) getting an apartment in stockholm is hard, and I dont want to pay 2k/month, or live in a ghetto.

The good thing about moving is a.) its good job, a big company with a bunch of benefits, and I will most likely be making an ok amount.

I really really like my girlfriend, and I dont want to move from her. But on the other hand, I need to think about my future too...

I started playing some poker recently and its been going ok I guess. Will start grinding again next week. Mtts, cash game?

Summer - get ready

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So a nightclub got destroyed a few years back in my home town, now they've started to rebuild it and its soon
finished.








Got some friends over at www.husarrest.com that are dj:ing here in Malmö. Check them out, here is a youtube vid from one of their gigs in lund at the university.

On May 23 2009 08:53 byrnesam wrote: 1: how long have you been together? 2: is it possible she could move with you? 3: why did they build the entrance way around the trees rather than chopping them down 4: is 8 miles of tiled stairs a good idea at a nightclub when theres drunk people around?

1.) About 6 months
2.) She just go an apartment in central malmö (which takes 3-4-5 years), and is working in Copenhagen.
3.) The nightclub is right by the beach in southern Sweden.
4.) Probably not.

On May 23 2009 09:29 Twisted wrote: If you are serious with the girlfriend, fuck the job. You can be anyone/anything you want as long as you are happy.

Fairly serious..

On May 23 2009 12:34 TheGuru wrote: Stcokholm > Malmö so obv move and if take gf with you? What kind of place do you really need if you are going to have to spend $2k a month? Penthouse at Karlaplan? The club seems nice, gl!

When I lived in Stockholm I lived inbetween Östermalmstorg and Karlaplan, and I would not want to live outside of tullarna...


Anyways Im going to up to Stockholm on Wednesday, and staying until thursday or friday..

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Gotta find out what makes you more happy then. Success in your career or your (current) relationship.

If you start that new job and at the same time have to quit it with the girl you might just feel shitty and not do a good job at all :/.

and well if you don't even know wether or not you'll like the job, dropping your gf for this job is going to be ridiculously painful, but whatever makes you happy....

I'd suggest getting better at poker and keeping the gf :D

fuck job and social status, keep the GF and be happy

I'd actually say go for the job, but well, it's a decision that cant be made easily from outside, only you can know.

The reasoning I have for this is, that girls come and go, and if you should break up anytime in the future (doesn't have to happen, but it might) you might regret not taking the job.

Or just become a poker ballah and dont care. :D

Even though girls are all nasty bitches (for the most part) If she makes you feel good, i would keep her. Finding a good girl is a rare occurrence. I'd take a good relationship over money any day.

Bro,

I was in the same situation was you this past year and I want to give you some advice from the heart. For the past four years, I was a total free spirit, some might have even called me a player and a womanizer. I usually have had like 5 different girlfriends across the States, I never promised exclusivity, and I was always willing to walk away if they gave me too much shit or they were making me compromise my values/freedom.

About a year and half ago, I met a girl who I really fell for. In the beginning, I kept my usual method and did my thing, saw other girls, never promised to be her one and only, etc. Still, I got very very close to her and eventually realized I was truly in love with her. At this point, I started going back on how I usually was, spending the majority of my time with her, trying not to fuck other girls, etc.

Then a crucial job/career opportunity came up. As you might expect, it was very far away. I went for it because it was important... but it was so hard, missing my girl and her crying/not being able to see me, etc. My heart and willpower became weak and I just came back for her, got a local job, even though it was less helpful to my career path.

Now, here's what I want to tell you: women appreciate a man who knows his mission and goes after it. Despite what women will tell you, they DO NOT want to be your FIRST PRIORITY. I know this sounds strange right? Every girl usually tells you "Oh, I want to be #1 in your life, etc." But the sad TRUTH of the matter is, any man who makes a girl his ONE AND EVERYTHING INSTA-LOSES RESPECT IN HER EYES. Even if she WANTS to love you MORE for making this sacrifice for her, her subconscious CANNOT really respect it, because what you basically SHOWED her was that you are easily swayed by the pussy. The moment you start to sacrifice your goals and your ambitions as a MAN for this girl, you are showing her that you are not ambitious, driven, strong enough to handle the emotional withdrawal and you are willing to compromise just to try to please her.

I know this is a hard point in your life. And everyone here is telling you to keep the girl, to be happy with her. But believe me when I tell you that part of the reason you are happy now is because she believes you to be a strong, independent man who has the power to make the right moves for himself and his future. The moment you start to sacrifice your freedom and your mission as a man, things will not be as happy as they were.

Remember this: true love blossoms under STRUGGLE. I think this time away from your gf, working hard and making money, becoming more of an influential and successful man, while working hard to keep this relationship alive over distance will truly put things into perspective. It will make you stronger as a man and also see if your bond with your girl is something really worth fighting for.

Well, good luck. Never choose what is easy and feels good over what is right and challenging for your life. As a man, this is the hard choice you must make. Women can make emotional choices and be happy with doing what they "feel" but if a man does this, he is simply lowering himself in the eyes of women/men alike.

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