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Joeingram1 United States. Oct 14 2011 11:52. Posts 943 | | |
Poker
I am going to get the poker update for day 2/3 of my SNE grind out of the way and then get to the good shit.
Day 2 was similar to day 1, up a few dollars at the table after 13 hours/18.8k hands. Also made about 600 dollars of FPP value during this time. Felt good, game felt good, attitude was good.
Today I woke up a bit later and have been pretty tired most of the day. Have been getting it in with lower equities then first few days and results have not been good. Have played about 9 hours so far and need to put 3 more in today but decided to write up a blog post about something a lot of my friends on fb/random poker people ask me about which is HOW DO I PICK UP CHICKS ONLINE DATING?? GIVE ME SOME TIPS! I've done some crazy shit and always wanted to write about it so I might as well start now, stories in the future to include the time I met someone halfway (hour drive) and ended up leaving her at beach in chicago, 5 hour roadtrip to southern indiana with friend where I shared hotel room with him and the girl I was meeting, black girls gone wild just to name four.
My Online Dating History: PART 1
Let me preface this by saying that I still talk to a few girls I met through online dating and I might mention some of them in here, will only say good things 
There are 4 parts to my history which goes from being 19, busto/broke, living at moms then living downtown in Chicago in my own place and obsessed with poker. Onto living back in my hometown on my own with unlimited monies to spend and sick car. Then San Diego where shitgotreal.jpg
Why should you or anyone listen to me about ways to be more successful in online dating. Well For those people who don't know too much about me besides the ridiculous amout of hours/hands I've played I do have a little bit of a life outside poker. I once did an online dating challenge where I tried to go on 30 dates in 30 days and posted it on 2+2 forums with pics/vids and trip reports of what happened. It was incredibly popular and was really fun on my end to do but unfortunately someone messaged all my Facebook friends (women) telling them I was some man on a mission and writing about who I was having sex with, posting their pics, etc.. At this time I was living back home so I was like "OMG what will people think" if this happened now though I probably wouldn't care to much. I asked the moderators to take the thread down and now it is gone into oblivion.
That experience for me was actually my 3rd venture into online dating and will get more into that later. I first learned about the world of online meetups/dating when I was 19. This was Pre-Sexting/Texting/Naked pics which have become the norm for people  . I had just lost my license and my best friend at the time Matt was always on this website called thedilly.com which was basically where you setup a profile and just kinda talked to people/did ratings and stuff like that. I had nothing else to do at the time so I made a profile as well, little did I know this was a life changing experience lol. Before this time I was always the skinny funny guy who was really into cars and always saw all these hot girls but never seemed to have a chance with them. After I lost my license I started walking to the fitness center down the street from me, discovered weightlifting, found out what a tanning salon was and what the hell Abercrombie and Fitch was (never knew). During this transitional time of my life I was doing my thing on thedilly pretty much everyday. Matt would always tell me about all these women he was going to see and end up having sex with and I was like WHOA AWESOME, NO WAY! Eventually I started talking with more girls on the site and finally was like fuck it, lets ask them to hang out and see what happens. Most of the girls I talked to where ages 16-19 but who really knows. To my surprise many said yes! I could not drive to meet up with any of these girls so Matt would drive me to hang out with them lol. I quickly realized that this wasn't online dating but more like online fucking because any girl you ended up meeting with you would inevitably have sex with. This was pretty eye opening for me, an OMGOMGOMG moment that we all sometimes have. Some girls would even come drive over to see me, one really pretty blonde girl, tall/tan/tongue ring, would drive 2 hours a few times a week to see me. It blew my mind that things like this could happen. I noticed as I started to get in better shape and post more shirtless pics of me on the site, I started to get interest from more girls and start hanging out with more of them. Me and Matt would go on double dates where he would bring me along when he met a new girl and she would bring a friend and things turned out the same as every other date would. Once he drove me to meet a girl about 45 mins away, he only had a 2 seater so we picked her up on my lap and drove to a random movie theatre. Matt called up a girl he knew from that area and she picked him up and left me in the front seat lol a true friend imo. One time a girl drove an hour from the city, we went to the "VIP Room" aka downstairs bedroom at my moms (thanks mom) and when I went upstairs to change and came back down she was in her coat ready to "help a friend in need".
There are two moments from this time period that stand out the most though. One was the time I randomly started talking to a girl from Jasper, IN which was about a 5 hour drive from where I lived at the time. She was pretty, little crazy and was all about me so I was obviously all about her. The big problem was that she lived 5 fucking hours away, the second problem was I didn't have a license. I talked to Matt and a road trip ensued. The plan was for her to bring a friend and the four of us would get a hotel room together. The friend she brought was a solid 2/10 and weight about 250lbs so needless to say Matt wasn't too interested and instead it was Me/Angel in one bed and Matt in the other. This whole story is probably worthy of its own blog post in the future though.
The second experience that is the most memorable for me was when I met the blonde cheerleader from the western suburbs, about an hour from where I lived. She was super nice, incredibly sweet, very pretty, and a virgin. I can't remember the exact details of our first few dates but things went well and I really liked her. Amazingly enough Matt was "dating" a girl who lived about 5 mins from her lol, true friend. We started all hanging out together and this progressed from there. On valentines day she ended up driving over to my house to hang out with me. On the way home though she was in a kinda bad car accident. At this point in my life I was all about the lets go workout/lets go find more girls so I probably didn't show enough caring for her after this and we pretty much stopped talking, though Matt did keep in touch with her . After a few months we did start talking randomly and hung out a few times but nothing like it was originally. I drove down to college to visit her and still talk to her now occasionally while she lives in Chicago.
Its amazing the people you can meet from online dating and the experiences you can end up having with them.
There was a bunch more dates that I went on during this 9 monthish time period and not all I remember these days. Most of the girls I hung out with were 8/8.5s with a rare 9/9.5 and the occasional mix of 7.5s. The myth that only ugly fat girls meet guys online is 100 percent false! At this time getting women was still a new concept to me and I was taking full advantage of my new found ability to do so. I guess you could call this my 15 year old girl phase of my life aka HUGE SLUT phase. Did I learn anything during this time or through these dates? Besides the fact that you always need a good wingman to help you out I don't think I ended up learning to much. I discovered how open and sexual alot of girls out there were, no matter if they were really gorgeous or semi-meh looking. You couldn't just a book by its cover.
The ending to this chapter of my life came when I started working at TGI Fridays and started meeting an unlimited supply of hostess and servers along with random customers (stories for another day) that there wasn't any time for online dating. Couple that with the fact that me and Matt started hanging out less and this chapter was closed. Matt still crushed it for years after though and probably still does to this day, kid was a true man of his time.
That is Part 1 to my story and I will write the following 3 Parts in the upcoming days when I am on break from my 13 hour grind sessions. I will give a few tips and secrets that noobs out there can use in their quest to meet the perfect woman online.
Online Dating Tips: Part 1
Alot of my poker friends from around the world ask me for tips all the time and say it is impossible to meet a cute girl from online dating. Well my friends you are very wrong and that is probably a bad attitude to go into things with. Although the strategies I have used might not work for everyone they might be able to help and make you start thinking about things differently, similar to when you first started learning more about poker. If your trying to actually find someone to date or just trying to have sex with random girls then these are the tips for you.
The first thing most people encounter when they begin is setting up their profile and choosing pictures. I myself went with the route of writing about a ton of information on a wide variety of things I enjoyed doing, interested in, or want to do one day. By doing this it allows a wider variety of women to either message you (yes women do message guys) and when you message someone and they click on you to find out more, they might find one or two things they have in common and reply back to you. "He likes laser tag? I do to!" "Wow he loves to travel, my kind of guy" "Taylor Swift concerts? Interesting". I have a few random tidbits similar to those that work super well for me. I come across as a charming, funny, hard working guy that has alot of interests and probably has something to say. Some women actually want some conversation, but not all.
The next thing to do is choose pictures. I didn't want to hide who I am in these photos. I am a shirt off kinda guy who enjoys working out and showing the results from said workouts. To some having a picture like this is an immediate turn off and you are quickly x'ed out of my the person. I wasn't trying to meet those type of judgemental people so fuck them. My Chicago proifle was a picture where I was happy with my mom, a random beach picture, and a few other glamour type shots. Do not put the getting drunk pictures on their. 99 percent of women you will meet say they don't want a drunk/party/bar/club type of guy and are sick of meeting them, etc. etc. Once you actually hang out with them the first time and get along, if you are that type of person or you aren't it really wont matter at all. Now that I am a bit older I have had to change up my picture selection a bit but I am always sure to show off the more favorable aspects of me (body, tan, car). Some people will look and say "look at this fucking dbag with the picture of his car". JUDGE JUDGE JUDGE! Luckily for me their are many, many other interested people out there who might enjoy cars and be interested in me because I do as well. During most of my first dates with women I will ask if they actually read my profile or just looked at pictures and a large majority say they intially started talking to me because of my pictures and thought I was good looking, so choose wisely. Glamour shots, in action sport shots, your best qualities you have to offer, go for those.
I really need to get to work now so in my next post I will go onto what messages to send and things to say to actually get a date with the better quality of girls out there on the sites.
Thanks for reading
Feedback is appreciated
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eso Sweden. Oct 14 2011 12:27. Posts 285 | | |
anyone still willing to bet against this @ 2:1? pm!
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dogmeat Czech Republic. Oct 14 2011 12:36. Posts 6374 | | |
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tutz Brasil. Oct 14 2011 12:37. Posts 2140 | | |
I enjoy reading your blog, I really like you but as an advice I think you should spend more time playing/studying poker rather than writing huge blog entries |
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tutz Brasil. Oct 14 2011 12:44. Posts 2140 | | | |
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Joeingram1 United States. Oct 14 2011 13:09. Posts 943 | | |
| | On October 14 2011 11:37 tutz_x wrote:
I enjoy reading your blog, I really like you but as an advice I think you should spend more time playing/studying poker rather than writing huge blog entries |
needed to de-tilt, now back to playing and playing better so it worked out
and this is by far the biggest blog i ever wrote, usually i dont write anything and it takes like 2 mins to type out |
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exalted United States. Oct 14 2011 13:32. Posts 2918 | | |
| | On October 14 2011 11:37 tutz_x wrote:
I enjoy reading your blog, I really like you but as an advice I think you should spend more time playing/studying poker rather than writing huge blog entries |
What? No...tutz you still have a long way before your blogs are as interesting as JIngrams.
Joe, keep us updated and finish this online dating series!
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iop Sweden. Oct 14 2011 13:39. Posts 4951 | | |
Can recommend Paris Club Rooftops, Undergroud in Chicago. Gooood stuff. |
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tutz Brasil. Oct 14 2011 13:57. Posts 2140 | | |
| | On October 14 2011 12:32 exalted wrote:
Show nested quote +
On October 14 2011 11:37 tutz_x wrote:
I enjoy reading your blog, I really like you but as an advice I think you should spend more time playing/studying poker rather than writing huge blog entries |
What? No...tutz you still have a long way before your blogs are as interesting as JIngrams.
Joe, keep us updated and finish this online dating series!
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ofc his blog is way better than mine, his blog is great! that was not my point |
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NewbSaibot United States. Oct 14 2011 15:24. Posts 4944 | | |
Sorta skimmed over the dating advice, as I see some various pros/cons/stereotypes with it. I'll just say from my experience, I have dated 5 girls from the internet. If you want a normal girl the internet is not for you. All the "normal" and "nice" girls, the kind that geeks think they want, are going to be fat. I'm sorry but thats just the way it is. But that doesnt mean there arent hot girls online, it's just they dont fit the average nerd's definition of "marriage material". They're freaks. They're usually slutty and kinda wild. Which makes sense, because afterall why would some hot normal chick be parading around on the internet when she could easily meet guys in public? It's because she has issues, thats why. If you can deal with this, then you can snag a chick way hotter than you'd ever pick up in real life. And for most "forever alone" types, getting a real freak in the sack is a huge win since she'll do all the porno shit you've been fantasizing about for years. Just dont be surprised when it doesnt work out. And for fucks sake be prepared to get laid on the first date, these girls always give it up way easy, and damn near expect it. |
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Exhilarate United States. Oct 14 2011 19:12. Posts 5453 | | |
good post joey, gl with eilte |
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Daut  United States. Oct 14 2011 20:08. Posts 8955 | | |
the problem i have with online dating is that it puts the relationship on a pedestal. for example, when i was single and would meet a girl there were a number of paths the relationship could take: we can end up dating seriously, dating casually, fuck buddies, hook up a few times, end up friends and i go after her friends, she ends up hitting it off with one of my friends and they end up fucking or dating and it works out for them, or we just stop hanging out altogether. theres no set in stone path for whats to come. with online dating the number of possible outcomes is very limited because both parties involved are usually looking for something in particular. of course if thats what you want then online dating seems great for you, but for guys in their 20s i think most are just looking for what seems right with each girl.
that said im sure there are plenty of really hot girls who know exactly what they are looking for out there. ive found girls are much more specific in what they want and guys just kinda go with the flow. but with online dating there isnt a whole lot of flow, its just kind of ok lets go out on a date and if we like each other then we continue doing that.
i think its a good tool for guys in their 30s or for guys who know exactly what they want. using it as a way to find girls to fuck is probably not the right approach to it though. and of course thats not for everyone, but i think thats the first thing that goes through most guys heads |
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NewbSaibot United States. Oct 14 2011 22:11. Posts 4944 | | |
Also, make sure you become pro at spotting Fat Girl Angle Shots. Some girls are getting pretty good at it these days, but there is one easy solution; look for beach/bathing suit/stomach shots. Any girl who has a decent body is going to have a full body shot of her somewhere online. She will show her stomach either in a bathing suit at the pool, or with some super short shirt on at a party, or something. If the girl you're talking to ONLY has pictures of her from the waste up, especially conveniently AT the waste but no lower, she's fat. I dont care how decent she looks, she's fuckin fat. Find a full body shot of her in a dress or something at least, to gauge her fatness by the size of her legs. |
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whamm! Albania. Oct 15 2011 06:09. Posts 11625 | | |
just dont fuck girls with vaginas which smell like ass |
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barbieman Sweden. Oct 15 2011 07:39. Posts 2132 | | |
just gonna smell your vag, 1 sec. |
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Joeingram1 United States. Oct 15 2011 16:22. Posts 943 | | |
| | On October 14 2011 19:08 Daut wrote:
the problem i have with online dating is that it puts the relationship on a pedestal. for example, when i was single and would meet a girl there were a number of paths the relationship could take: we can end up dating seriously, dating casually, fuck buddies, hook up a few times, end up friends and i go after her friends, she ends up hitting it off with one of my friends and they end up fucking or dating and it works out for them, or we just stop hanging out altogether. theres no set in stone path for whats to come. with online dating the number of possible outcomes is very limited because both parties involved are usually looking for something in particular. of course if thats what you want then online dating seems great for you, but for guys in their 20s i think most are just looking for what seems right with each girl.
that said im sure there are plenty of really hot girls who know exactly what they are looking for out there. ive found girls are much more specific in what they want and guys just kinda go with the flow. but with online dating there isnt a whole lot of flow, its just kind of ok lets go out on a date and if we like each other then we continue doing that.
i think its a good tool for guys in their 30s or for guys who know exactly what they want. using it as a way to find girls to fuck is probably not the right approach to it though. and of course thats not for everyone, but i think thats the first thing that goes through most guys heads |
Using online dating to find girls to trictly fuck has been a great tool and extremely effective for me and I think it could work out well for most people if they approached it from that angle. I wasn't against finding someone to date in a more serious manner but I also wasn't pushing anyone for something like that and just took things as they came along.
I agree that meeting someone through online dating usually ends up going a few paths which is short fling or long term/girlfriend type of relationship with the very rare friend/random hookup buddy.
I don't think online dating is for everyone but for some guys in there 20's and even 30's who are just super shy/quiet types, might not have friends that like to go out and meet women or don't go out in general, online dating is by far the most effective way to meet new women and a potential serious girlfriend.
Enjoy your comments on my blog Daut, will have to meet up when your back here in vancouver. |
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good blog but post pics of those 8-9.5s u were dating with. |
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P1mpdaddy Austria. Oct 17 2011 03:08. Posts 1370 | | |
| | On October 16 2011 01:26 nlloser60 wrote:
good blog but post pics of those 8-9.5s u were dating with. |
+1...picssss |
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| | On October 16 2011 01:26 nlloser60 wrote:
good blog but post pics of those 8-9.5s u were dating with. |
+1 |
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