Ethics: Exposed Cards - Page 8

What you aren't getting is that it has nothing to do with them. It only has to do with me and how I feel about the situation. Anybody else involved, no matter who they are, doesn't matter.

It's the same logic I use for holding the door open for people and not putting my seat back when I'm on an airplane.

I don't like it when people don't hold the door open for me. I don't like it when people put their seat back on airplanes in front of me. I don't like it when people don't tell me that I'm accidentally exposing my cards.

So I hold doors open, I don't put my seat back and I tell people when they are exposing their cards. I think that if there are things that I would like, if I don't do them myself I am a huge hypocrite and incredibly selfish. These actions may be considered nice and polite but if I didn't care about any of these things I would feel no obligation to do them. It's why I have horrible manners in general. Because I think manners and doing stuff just to be nice is stupid. I do what makes sense to me and what I'd like. Nothing anybody else thinks matters.

Whether actions that aren't really selfish exist,it is a deep and lengthy subject and I don't really believe they do.
That said, there's a lot of subconsious or semi-subconsious reasoning for manners generally accepted by ppl.
By analyzing the root of these behavioral patterns one can construct his own set of rules and reject the ones that seem
illogical.
I believe everyone does that to a certain extent.
I think a situation is partly defined by the ones involved in it and that's probably our main disagreement for the matter,as you choose to select your actions regardless of who's involved.

I probably wouldn't hold the door open for many ppl.